"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Debating if I should get her number

slitherjef

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Here is the situation. I recently started to chat more and more to this girl at work. Usualy say hey or something to each other when we cross paths. A bit of fluff talk here and there and so on. So there is a bit of rapport going here. I think she is a cool person, could be fun to hang with and maybe take things further if it came to that.

I found out that she is leaving the store (and maybe the company) at the end of this month. If she is not at that store Im at, then it don't matter. I also did not hear this information that she was leaving from her, I was just in the same room when it was mentioned. She don't know that I know.

So this got me thinking, ya know, she seems like a cool person, maybe we could hang out together outside of work. Ya know... I could try for her number and if she don't give it, well she is leaving anyway so I probably would not see her that often anymore, so what ever.

The problem is, there is an age difference. From what I understand, she is 18. Im 29. A bit of a difference there. My problem is, would asking her for her number to hang out for coffee or something like that going to make me look like some kind of weirdo or something. But if she was okay with my age, it would be all good, aside what other people would think

On one hand, I don't have many friends and would be kind of cool to make some new ones and there would always be a chance that she has some older female friends she could introduce me to...

On the other hand, what people (herself included) would think of me hanging around with some one that young

:crazy:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dongfu

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I got dizzy reading this. Nothing will happen for you if you cant make a decision. First decide you want to fvck her. Then decide it's okay to fvck/date a younger girl - in fact it's perfectly normal and natural. Then decide you dont care what people thing. SHe's going to another job soon. Perfect opportunity, if you cand decide to take it.
 

slitherjef

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Dongfu said:
I got dizzy reading this. Nothing will happen for you if you cant make a decision. First decide you want to fvck her. Then decide it's okay to fvck/date a younger girl - in fact it's perfectly normal and natural. Then decide you dont care what people thing. SHe's going to another job soon. Perfect opportunity, if you cand decide to take it.
Your right. I don't want to regret NOT asking her. I should NOT give a fork what people think as it would be MY business and HERS only. No one elses.
 

Dongfu

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slitherjef said:
Your right. I don't want to regret NOT asking her. I should NOT give a fork what people think as it would be MY business and HERS only. No one elses.
It's people who cant get a younger woman that have created this "its wrong to do it crap." Everywhere else in the world i've been, there is no wierd age stipulation. good luck
 

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I'm in the same situation as you.

There is a girl at work that only works 2 days a week - but when she's there, I'm trying to talk to her as much as possible but my manager just will not allow it. So, next time when she gets off work (or when I get a chance) I'm just going to tell her straight to her face "Let me get your number so we can talk more and get to know each other better" BADA BING BADA BOOM! Simple as that, If she rejects me.... Who fvcking cares. If she gives it to me, then I'll be glad to move on to the next step.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ligyron

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you know, if you apply all the material correctly, you'll never have to deal with rejection. she will ask for *your number* because her body is uncontrollably (more powerfully than emotions a man would feel) telling her to GET CLOSER TO THIS GUY
 
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