"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Debating if I should get her number

slitherjef

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Here is the situation. I recently started to chat more and more to this girl at work. Usualy say hey or something to each other when we cross paths. A bit of fluff talk here and there and so on. So there is a bit of rapport going here. I think she is a cool person, could be fun to hang with and maybe take things further if it came to that.

I found out that she is leaving the store (and maybe the company) at the end of this month. If she is not at that store Im at, then it don't matter. I also did not hear this information that she was leaving from her, I was just in the same room when it was mentioned. She don't know that I know.

So this got me thinking, ya know, she seems like a cool person, maybe we could hang out together outside of work. Ya know... I could try for her number and if she don't give it, well she is leaving anyway so I probably would not see her that often anymore, so what ever.

The problem is, there is an age difference. From what I understand, she is 18. Im 29. A bit of a difference there. My problem is, would asking her for her number to hang out for coffee or something like that going to make me look like some kind of weirdo or something. But if she was okay with my age, it would be all good, aside what other people would think

On one hand, I don't have many friends and would be kind of cool to make some new ones and there would always be a chance that she has some older female friends she could introduce me to...

On the other hand, what people (herself included) would think of me hanging around with some one that young

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dongfu

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I got dizzy reading this. Nothing will happen for you if you cant make a decision. First decide you want to fvck her. Then decide it's okay to fvck/date a younger girl - in fact it's perfectly normal and natural. Then decide you dont care what people thing. SHe's going to another job soon. Perfect opportunity, if you cand decide to take it.
 

slitherjef

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Dongfu said:
I got dizzy reading this. Nothing will happen for you if you cant make a decision. First decide you want to fvck her. Then decide it's okay to fvck/date a younger girl - in fact it's perfectly normal and natural. Then decide you dont care what people thing. SHe's going to another job soon. Perfect opportunity, if you cand decide to take it.
Your right. I don't want to regret NOT asking her. I should NOT give a fork what people think as it would be MY business and HERS only. No one elses.
 

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slitherjef said:
Your right. I don't want to regret NOT asking her. I should NOT give a fork what people think as it would be MY business and HERS only. No one elses.
It's people who cant get a younger woman that have created this "its wrong to do it crap." Everywhere else in the world i've been, there is no wierd age stipulation. good luck
 

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I'm in the same situation as you.

There is a girl at work that only works 2 days a week - but when she's there, I'm trying to talk to her as much as possible but my manager just will not allow it. So, next time when she gets off work (or when I get a chance) I'm just going to tell her straight to her face "Let me get your number so we can talk more and get to know each other better" BADA BING BADA BOOM! Simple as that, If she rejects me.... Who fvcking cares. If she gives it to me, then I'll be glad to move on to the next step.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you know, if you apply all the material correctly, you'll never have to deal with rejection. she will ask for *your number* because her body is uncontrollably (more powerfully than emotions a man would feel) telling her to GET CLOSER TO THIS GUY
 
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