Dear Ignorant Black Women,

[zekko]

The main complaint I've read about black women on this forum is that they only go for real criminal thug types. More recently, I've been reading that they like white men. Are both of these statements true? Or does the white man have to be a criminal lol?

I assume in the former case, guys are talking about inner city black women. I live in a fairly semi-rural area, and we don't have a large number of African Americans here. The ones that are here though, they seem to be seen as kind of exotic, since they are kind of rare. Sort of like true redheads. And because of that, I suppose, and the dating pool, many of them do end up dating white folks. Personally, I find black women attractive, but we don't have the hardcore inner city types here.

The other thing I've heard is that black women feel abandoned by black men, because black men tend to go after white women. And I know many white women who are attracted to black men. So maybe black women go for white men because their black men have gone elsewhere? Or maybe it just is? I don't know, just thinking aloud here.

 

[yungballa]

lol

its backwards where i live. blacks go for blacks. im black myself. i love black women. i dont really like white women too much but thats just me. im mostly for black and hispanic girls.

where i live black girls mostly go for black guys. but thats just where i live. but over here, everyone's the "hardcore inner city" type that you mentioned.

 

[logicallefty]

It's been years since I dated a black woman but never been in a LTR with one. Generally speaking they tend to be pretty fun to be around.

 

[Tenacity]

The main complaint I've read about black women on this forum is that they only go for real criminal thug types. More recently, I've been reading that they like white men. Are both of these statements true? Or does the white man have to be a criminal lol?

I assume in the former case, guys are talking about inner city black women. I live in a fairly semi-rural area, and we don't have a large number of African Americans here. The ones that are here though, they seem to be seen as kind of exotic, since they are kind of rare. Sort of like true redheads. And because of that, I suppose, and the dating pool, many of them do end up dating white folks. Personally, I find black women attractive, but we don't have the hardcore inner city types here.

The other thing I've heard is that black women feel abandoned by black men, because black men tend to go after white women. And I know many white women who are attracted to black men. So maybe black women go for white men because their black men have gone elsewhere? Or maybe it just is? I don't know, just thinking aloud here.

Here's what I want you guys to understand, the culture within the black community is backwards, it's setup to go against the standard culture as it's been taken over by far left liberals, the welfare system, and thugs.

- If you are a thug, drug dealer, in and out of jail, dead beat Father, welfare mother, or a loud/aggressive black woman....you are seen as AUTHENTIC.

- If you are a well-spoken, educated, black man, you are seen as acting white/fake/wanting to be white.

- If you are a well-spoken, educated, black woman without a bunch of kids, you are seen as acting white/fake/wanting to be white.

That's the structure. So this means that to black women (the vast majority), the black man that resembles characteristics of the thug or drug dealer will be seen as the Alpha Male. It's not ENOUGH (like it is on the white boy side) to just be CONFIDENT, no....if push comes to shove you need to GET DOWN and kick a.ss, roast a.ss, or shoot a.ss, or you will be seen as "soft".

It's why educated black men are made fun of and it's why it's harder to attract black women without adding in aspects of the "thug culture". I KNOW what I'm talking about because I am that fvckin nerd that had to MIMIC aspects of thugs and drug dealers before I consistently started pulling black women.

The black community is upside down and this situation is contributing to the vast majority of problems in the black community today, but of course if you let THEM tell it, they will say it's the Police and White Supremacy that's causing the issues rather than the fvcked up structure we are operating in.

I honestly can't be around a group of black people that long for the most part....the shyt turns into complete and utter stupid shyt.

As a black, educated, conservative...I'm pretty much alone in this world. I'm not accepted by the black community and the white community (a lot of times) sees me as just another one of those "N words" until they actually hear me speak and get to know me.

 

[LiveFreeX]

So I guess that means that the only solution for you Tenacity is to find some other colour to cohabit with and for your sisters to do the same. Thus everyone can escape their cultural binding.

 

[zekko]

Here's what I want you guys to understand, the culture within the black community is backwards, it's setup to go against the standard culture as it's been taken over by far left liberals, the welfare system, and thugs.

This is my perception as well, at least when you are talking about the inner city. I live in a smaller city, and I don't think that's the prevailing attitude among the local African Americans.

I think that attitude is understandable, but obviously it doesn't help anyone. If there is resentment toward white people, the best revenge is living well, as they say. So kudos to you on that point, Tenacity. Bill Cosby was a major proponent of seeing genuine self improvement in the black community, which IMO makes his fall from grace all the more tragic.

 

[Tenacity]

This is my perception as well, at least when you are talking about the inner city. I live in a smaller city, and I don't think that's the prevailing attitude among the local African Americans.

I think that attitude is understandable, but obviously it doesn't help anyone. If there is resentment toward white people, the best revenge is living well, as they say. So kudos to you on that point, Tenacity. Bill Cosby was a major proponent of seeing genuine self improvement in the black community, which IMO makes his fall from grace all the more tragic.

Yes, it's even at the POINT right now where if you just come out as a reasonable black person and call out the irresponsible behavior....they just throw out the "coon" and "Uncle Tom" label. You don't have to even be a Republican, vote Republican or anything of the sort, you could be a full-fledged socialist....but if you call out a group of black people for doing some irresponsible shyt they will label you a coon or Uncle Tom.

So "reproach" is not even allowed anymore. Basically it's supposed to go like this:

- Let Ray Ray and Pookie keep selling drugs, thugging, trapping, getting women pregnant/not taking care of their kids, going in and out of jail, and doing random shootings which take the lives of random innocent black people.

- Let Tyquesha keep having kid after kid by thug after thug, collecting EBT benefits, free housing, free healthcare and also monthly government checks from putting her kids on these fake "disabilities".

Let all that keep going on and don't say anything in relation to how STUPID this behavior is because if you do, then you are "cooning" for the white man.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

As a black, educated, conservative...I'm pretty much alone in this world. I'm not accepted by the black community and the white community (a lot of times) sees me as just another one of those "N words" until they actually hear me speak and get to know me.

You are not alone because of your color, education, or political status. You are alone because of your attitude.

 

[glass half full]

unfortunately this does sound a lot like all ethnicities of gals, IMO.

I happen to like black gals, but my folks would flip, unfortunately.
Had a very nice one flirting with me big time while out for breakfast with a friend a while back...mmm!!

 

[kenpiffyjr]

I'm black and the number one issue I have is the entitlement of black women. But tbh, I'm sure white guys would complain about white women the same.

I think both races face the same issues, just projected in a different way.

American women as a majority are just so entitled that it's nauseating. What's crazy is that black women are the most educated group of American citizens, but majority are like place kickers in the nfl who learned how to do this one thing to get by but you really can't talk to them about the entire aspect of football or they'll get exposed as having limited knowledge. This isn't all...as when you meet one who can actually have an in depth conversation, it's a beautiful thing. But I remember I dated this female who had memes on her Instagram about how "deep conversations are how you get deep inside me" and after one conversation I knew it was bs. A lot of women...not just black women...are faking the funk and doing just enough and just the right thing to get by. It's sad.

 

[glass half full]

Should one cross the path of a woman, as described above, do not stop, do not try to change them, just keep going and never look back.

But they usually want to change us...

 

[Bible_Belt]

My ex-wife's mother, who is black and originally from the Caribbean, had a lot of criticisms toward black Americans. She especially hated the term African-American.

She'd say, "what is this, calling yourself African business? You're not from Africa. You've never even been to Africa. My skin is as dark as anyone's and I have lived in Africa, but I don't go around calling myself African, because I'm not from there. That would be stupid."