"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Teasing, Negs, DHV, yada yada yada with regular chicks is fun and not a big deal. I'm very picky when it comes to women, and occasionally i'll meet a girl who's drop dead gorgeous to me. Then for some reason i'll stumble with my game and it won't flow as naturally. I'm only human!

Is there any type of mindset you guys put yourself in to knock the beautiful girls off the imaginary pedestals you've placed them on in your mind? Little things you say to yourself, or tricks you use?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Plenty of methods, but everyone has their own preference.

In my early days, I would just devalue the importance of a woman's appearance. Imagine having undergone plastic surgery last night, just to please you.

Afterall, it is their looks that's creating the fear, not their personality at first.
 

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What Social said. They're into you from the start unless proven otherwise.
 

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Guess being a 90's baby and watching Disney movies over and over again, I have fallen victim to the "pretty girl is a princess" brainwash. So when a "pretty" girl I actually like comes along, I like to hope she's different. I like to hope she's not a slut, not manipulative, not a mind gamer, doesn't sh!t, pisses excellence, and just an amazing and magical creature :eek:

But the reality is, a girl is human; like everyone else.


"Imagine having undergone plastic surgery last night, just to please you."

"There is something unique that I can offer this girl that know other guy can and that is why she wants me."

^^ I like these, i'm working on my own frame and applying it to social situations. It's a very interesting concept, and i'm starting to fully believe in it. You guys obviously have that "i'm the prize" frame which in my opinion is excellent.


Let's keep this going! Any more "prizing" self confidence boosting sayings you guys use to help level your head?
 

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You need a fire in your mind. Be the devil-may-care cowboy you know you were born to be. Life is a game that you master if you only stretch out your hands and take it in.

"You must have a little chaos inside to give birth to a dancing star. I am telling you, you have chaos inside of you still." --Friedrich Nietzsche
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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