Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dealing with "your type"

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Teasing, Negs, DHV, yada yada yada with regular chicks is fun and not a big deal. I'm very picky when it comes to women, and occasionally i'll meet a girl who's drop dead gorgeous to me. Then for some reason i'll stumble with my game and it won't flow as naturally. I'm only human!

Is there any type of mindset you guys put yourself in to knock the beautiful girls off the imaginary pedestals you've placed them on in your mind? Little things you say to yourself, or tricks you use?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Plenty of methods, but everyone has their own preference.

In my early days, I would just devalue the importance of a woman's appearance. Imagine having undergone plastic surgery last night, just to please you.

Afterall, it is their looks that's creating the fear, not their personality at first.
 

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What Social said. They're into you from the start unless proven otherwise.
 

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Guess being a 90's baby and watching Disney movies over and over again, I have fallen victim to the "pretty girl is a princess" brainwash. So when a "pretty" girl I actually like comes along, I like to hope she's different. I like to hope she's not a slut, not manipulative, not a mind gamer, doesn't sh!t, pisses excellence, and just an amazing and magical creature :eek:

But the reality is, a girl is human; like everyone else.


"Imagine having undergone plastic surgery last night, just to please you."

"There is something unique that I can offer this girl that know other guy can and that is why she wants me."

^^ I like these, i'm working on my own frame and applying it to social situations. It's a very interesting concept, and i'm starting to fully believe in it. You guys obviously have that "i'm the prize" frame which in my opinion is excellent.


Let's keep this going! Any more "prizing" self confidence boosting sayings you guys use to help level your head?
 

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You need a fire in your mind. Be the devil-may-care cowboy you know you were born to be. Life is a game that you master if you only stretch out your hands and take it in.

"You must have a little chaos inside to give birth to a dancing star. I am telling you, you have chaos inside of you still." --Friedrich Nietzsche
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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