Dealing with younger girls friends, girls night..

[Demodulate]

13 year age gap..

My last relationship ended a week after meeting the girls college friends.. it was only a 9 year gap.. fast forward 2 years

This weekend I met the current girls girl-friends.. they where Vegans, and it was like oil and water.. they had girls night after I left, and things seem off now..

on top of it the girl took a guy she knows out for a birthday dinner last night.. not sure if it was solo or with her roommate, but I am starting to think it was solo..

normally I wouldn't care, we have only been casually dating a month or so, but after meeting her friends, and my spidey sense going off, I feel like something is wrong..

no text, or phone call in 24 hours, when I usually get something at night and in the morning..

I am trying to play it cool, but after my last relationship ended on similar circumstances, I feel like her friends gave me a thumbs down, and its over..


how do I prevent this from happening in the future? how do i deal with the younger friends of a younger girl?

 

[Who Dares Win]

First of all keep in mind that girls despite the bvllsh1t they say about being strong independant and all, are actually very weak in their personality and sheep minded.

They hardly take decisions by themselves and hardly challenge the group think (the reason for which fashion and commercial work on women).

As you found out, the opinion of her friends is critic, at this point you have two options:

1)cut out her friends as much as possible

2)make sure they like you and give their approval

Personally I suggest the first option since unless you're way above average in look,personality and social skills at least one of them will find a flaw in you.

Also consider that they would rather date guys which are friends to each other in order to satisfy their group need instead of dealing with a single guy, apparently girls nowadays consider single guys creepy untill proven otherwise.

Its the same at the club where hunting solo is much harder than hunting with a friend.

So about your problem, you can find out a way to get a positive reaction from the herd or try to avoid it as long as possible, untill your connection is bigger and your girl will invest enough in you (therefore framing the group think as more favourable).

A good soluton would be to involve some of your friends if you have some which could handle such situation.

 

[Demodulate]

You have been casually dating for a month or so. A GNO should not bother you or even be on your mind. Spinning other plates should be your priority.

it doesn't.. its the friends issue thats rubbing me wrong..

my last decent relationship ended after eerily similar circumstances..

met friends a week later is was done..

I shouldn't care but this thing has struck a nerve..

 

[backbreaker]

it doesn't.. its the friends issue thats rubbing me wrong..

my last decent relationship ended after eerily similar circumstances..

met friends a week later is was done..

I shouldn't care but this thing has struck a nerve..

that's not her ****ing problem bro.

you can't be bringing baggage in **** in from other relationships and making her deal with it just like I'm not gonna be hounded every 2 hours beucase your last ex boyfriend got distant and cheated on you. **** that **** i'm out.

if you have issues / emotional **** fro your last relationship you need to process that **** on your own time dont' take it out on your b girl who is doing nothing more than chilling with the hommies. that's what girls do. if you aren't ready for that then you aren't ready to be in a relationship.

 

[Demodulate]

that's not her ****ing problem bro.

you can't be bringing baggage in **** in from other relationships and making her deal with it just like I'm not gonna be hounded every 2 hours beucase your last ex boyfriend got distant and cheated on you. **** that **** i'm out.

if you have issues / emotional **** fro your last relationship you need to process that **** on your own time dont' take it out on your b girl who is doing nothing more than chilling with the hommies. that's what girls do. if you aren't ready for that then you aren't ready to be in a relationship.

thats what I needed to hear..

thanks.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Demodulate,
Must confess that a group of Vegans would worry me too,typical Herd mentality...Your Girl gets on that Diet and you will be Stoking a bag of tent pegs in a few months....If you had a few Plates on the side,as Sam Spade suggests,this wouldn't worry you,you would just step aside for a while and just up the ante with the others...The Purity Phenomena so common with young Women seems to follow a predictable path...First they give up meat,then alcohol,then Svex.....Promise!!!....but take heart this is pretty boring and most of them just stick at it for a few weeks,seeming to gain more from the supportive nutrition they receive within the group than anything they stick in their emaciated bellies.

 

[origin138]

how do I prevent this from happening in the future? how do i deal with the younger friends of a younger girl?

I think your gut is telling you the truth, and that something is off. The GNO is a classic **** test but it's also something chicks "just do". Your goal is to behave indifferently and go on about your night. You should also have other plates you can call up and spend time with, and you should certainly be spending your time on women who have high interest level in you. This girl doesn't seem to have high interest level.

As for how you should act or behave? My thoughts are that you should act and behave how you want to act and behave. If they're vegans, and you want a steak, order a steak. If you took her to meet your friends and they were all a bunch of carnivores wearing leather shoes, do you think she'd adjust her beliefs to please you and your friends? Probably not.

Life is far too short to go around pleasing people. If she can't accept you as you are, or if she relies so heavily on the feedback of a bunch of jealous fatties in determining whether to keep you around or not, she isn't worth a minute of your time. There are plenty of women out there.

As for your issues from your past relationships, that's not her problem. But it seems you're clear on this and aren't throwing it in her court in an attempt to explain away jealousy/oneitis.

 

[sodbuster]

You may need to come up with some girlfriend destroyers... you know like"I think you are mature for your age...I bet your friends aren't so worldly" and "no, I don't think I should meet your girls, they will be jealous and try to break us up..even though we aren't that serious...yet" Drop those in BEFORE you meet them, early in the relationship. Get little princess thinking she's special and give her reasons to doubt her girls

 

[Demodulate]

after backbreakers reality check, I just dialed back comm for a few days, and then this morning told her to bring an overnight bag over and that meat is on the menu tonight.. she agreed and said she was "famished".. lots of sexual innuendoes where used on both sides..

sometimes I am my own worst enemy..