"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dealing with undercover c0ckblocking and approaching in clubs/bar

badboyjmm

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A couple months ago, I've decided that I would rest from women, since I was getting numbers and what not but nothing more significant (no date). After a two weeks I started going out again and realize that sometimes, I approach like crazy and sometimes I can barely approach (1-2 girls last night).

One thing that help me a lot was the fact that my friends were pretty successful in engaging with girls (dancing, talking, phone numbers, dates). Although I feel that I'm still stuck since I have numbers, I have fun but I've haven't got laid in almost a year (just 2 dates and a couple make-outs to show for).

I feel that my friends are c0ckblocking whenever things are going my way:

1-I was talking to a girl and my friend reminded me that she was "involve" with somebody that we know, they ended up "falling asleep" he says that nothing happen but I doubt it)

2- He said that he would introduce me to a girl that he knew that he wasn't really interested about, only to have him brag about sleeping with her.


I don't know if I should keeping my "dating problems" to myself since it seems that they want me to be single so I can always go pick them up and go out. Another thing too, is that they love to say random stuff about game then when I'm trying to discuss, they come up with "how much to you pull and blablabla" just because I said that there's no way to look at a girl and know for a fact that she is easy.

Also what can I change in my approach with girls that would at least give me a better change talking these girls on a date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kieran Black

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You should read 'Chris Manaks 25 tips for approaching girls' that is easily the best article by far I've ever read on approaching.

As for your friends ****blocking you, all I can suggest is that you should consider getting some new friends if they're always going to be keeping you down like that, bro's are supposed to help one another out not ****block them.
 

3countriesPlan

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You need new friends, those guys sound like a bunch of ponces. Find a crowd that will help you instead of using you as their designated driver.
 
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