"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dealing with the ****blocker

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It's always really disturbing. When a guy says something in the presence of you and a girl that on the surface appears to be an ill-considered comment but upon a moment of closer examination is ****block.

****block is symptomatic of deap-seated emotional issues another man has with you for some reason. For the most part it comes from two things, jealousy and/or insecurity.

Dealing with the ****blocker can get ugly, so don't do it in front of the woman. Take what you know about the person who just ****blocked you and try to figure out why they might be jealous of you or what insecurities you may cause to manifest in them. Once you have an idea what it's all about, attack it directly. Be merciless, bring all their insecurities to the surface and twist the knife.

For example let's say you are at a party and a friend of a friend who you know hasn't gotten laid in a year says something that ****blocks you. Since you know that about him, you can probably deduce that he takes issue with you because he knows about your successes with women. Get him away from women and possibly make sure some guys are around.

You: What the fukk was that all about, @sshole?!
****blocker: Uh...um...er what are you talking about?
You: Don't play dumb b*tch with me, you just ****blocked me and you know it. Look, just because you haven't been laid in a year doesn't mean the rest of us don't have a chance!

You just attack the insecurity that was the source of the ****block. This sends a powerful message to the ****blocker, you are saying:

"Not only will I not tolerate this, I am onto you. I know you're afraid of meand I know why. I know where you are weak and vulnerable."

If this person is your friend, do eventually forgive him but explain to him that you will not tolerate that and be wary of him in the future. If he does it again after this, dissociate yourself from him.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
Before we continue, tell me WTF is ****block!?
A ****block is when someone (another guy) makes a comment or takes some action when you are talking to/seducing a girl in order to lower your chances with said girl. It also can be when you're talking to/seducing a girl and the other guy comes in to try to pick her up and away from you.



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"Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how we can turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers."
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"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
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trickynick

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova:
A ****block is when someone (another guy) makes a comment or takes some action when you are talking to/seducing a girl in order to lower your chances with said girl. It also can be when you're talking to/seducing a girl and the other guy comes in to try to pick her up and away from you.


It's a little different than another guy competing ligitimately with you for the girl, that's fine and may the best DJ of the two get her (if either). It's when he tries just to blow you out of the water by deliberately making you look bad somehow. That is ****block and against the Geneva Convention of picking up chicks.
 

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Yeah, guys can be ****blockers even if they dont mean to be. It SUCKS cuz they do it without trying and it would be harsh just to go off on him. I say, just tell the guy to lay off on the girl in a calm manner.

If he refuses then you know his game....

THEN SET THAT DAMN ****BLOCKER STRAIGHT!!

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Stop pursuing, and make them be on the chase.-MOA
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So how go we get rid of these people?

What to do so we can emerge good-looking and make his own efforts goes down the drain which will make himself look bad instead of you?

Have a nice day!
 

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A ****blocker is anyone who tries to block your **** from the pus$y. Could be a guy or a girl. Expecially when you have females who are in groups, one of the females usually tries to take on the role of the ****blocker. This happens because women are attention *****s, and if they are not getting any attention, then they don't want thier friends to get any either.

This is also the reason single women (****blockers), are always nitpicking into married or dating mens relationships.
 

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I have been at a party and had one of my friends follow me and the girl around. We couldn't get alone all night which made it impossible for us to do anything. My friend was also trying to get with her constantly hitting on her. would this be considered ****blocking, or just some competition. If it is ****blocking, how would you recommend going about that situation? I know he will do it again in the future.
 

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JL3MAC said:
I have been at a party and had one of my friends follow me and the girl around. We couldn't get alone all night which made it impossible for us to do anything. My friend was also trying to get with her constantly hitting on her. would this be considered ****blocking, or just some competition. If it is ****blocking, how would you recommend going about that situation? I know he will do it again in the future.
****BLOCK! Dude if you are working on a girl and your buddy tries to pick her up to it’s a ****block! Even if you are not successful your friend has no right to take that from you.
 

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I have a ****block story I was working on this hot model at a bar in Japan and for an hour we kept drinking and laughing. The bar emptied and we were still talking when this Korean dude came over and started talking to her ****blocking me big time, by talking to her and grabbing her attention away from me. So when she went to the washroom I told him directly "bro I have been talking to her for a while now and, I would like be alone with her its nothing against you but you understand right?" The ass kept saying oh "hahaha no no no I like her I like her hahaha no no no" I was going to beat the sh!t out of him but then she came back and he went to go to the toilet. When he left I grabbed her and took her to my place and had crazy and wild sex. The next day I saw her on a commercial on the JR train :eek:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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****blockers are usually big time AFCs who don't know how to work it so they stay there staying stupid things that don't help anyone. CBers in my experience are friends who seem to not know when to leave you alone with her.

If another guy is also hitting on her, thats competition, and they can use the ****block, but its more of a defensive move for people who don't know better. Also her friends will CB as protection or as defense.

I was talking to a HB on Thurs and when she can back out with her drink another guy was following her trying to chat it up.

At first I thought, great, there goes my chance of getting her number, but that is how an AFC thinks, thinking as a dj - it's an obstacle not a defeat, so think back to the dj bible for some PU tools, what to do? I wasn't going to take her home, but I did want to get her #.

Here's where the compliment comes in good use. She was dressed up nice, so I interrupt them and told her that her blouse was pretty, BAM, her attention turns away from him to me, then I got the phone number and left.

Later my friend was telling me that the other guy was giving her AFC b.s. like "your not going to call him are you" and acting all pissed. Giving her half of my attention got all of her attention.
 

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Is a ****blocker always a man?

Because I have FAR more problems dealing with a girl's friends. I'll go to the bar and always seem to meet girls who are in two's... one cute, the other not so cute. Since they are friends, they don't want to abandon each other. Or, sometimes the cute one is more willing to get with you but the other just kind of hangs around and gets in the middle of everything.

I guess the obvious answer is that you could settle for a # close... but that's boring.

I'm just a little pissed because the other night I actually cold-approached a cute young thing (doesn't happen all that often) and her fat friends, and she was all over me. The friend kept butting in, and I kind of wimped out and had to just get a number instead of taking this fine thing home.
 
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I hate ****blockers they're just jealous lozers who envy your success and wish they were in your place and try to bring you down to their level. Racial ****blocking is the worst so don't tolerate it, I got a few and let it go by which encouraged those classmates to continue until I finally snapped and AMOG them back.
 

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No many times a chicks female friend might block you, hate blockers, hate guys that you try to wing with who try to block you, its very irritating.

Many times I've had a friend come in halfway through a convo and try some C&F and get the girls attention which is a full mood kill.
 
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****blockers can be male or female. It could even be your own friend who doesn't know what he or she is doing!
D@mn! I hate ****blockers! There was a time I was dancing with this hotchic in a club when her fat friend (a girl) grabbed her by the arms and dragged her out. Good thing I was able to # close later in the night by joining her group (with the ****blocker also there). Turned out that her fat friend was onto me coz she asked my number and started calling me the next day and was jealous because I was calling her friend. Eventually I stopped calling the HB coz the CB was stabbing me at the back to her!

Another incident was with my AFC friend. I was already grinding with this chic when he approached me and started asking me AFC questions like "Man! I can't get any chics! What do i do?" and was just standing there like ****!

Wow! That was first post! Haha!

Anyways, I hope I'm welcome here. Newbie, starting to become Don Juan here. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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****blockers, they suck. Luckily it's much easier when the ****blocker is a girl, especially a friend of the HB that you really want to talk to. When the girls are in a group of 2, I usually talk to the 'not hot' girl first, to get on her good side, then I shift my attention over to the HB that I really want. I noticed this reduces the risk of little miss 'not hot' girl ****blocking you.

Groups of 3 or more, gets a little tricky, I still haven't mastered this yet but getting better. Basically I use the same Idea, make a good impression on all the girls in the group first, then shift slightly more attention to the one your really after.
 

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trickynick said:
It's a little different than another guy competing ligitimately with you for the girl, that's fine and may the best DJ of the two get her (if either). It's when he tries just to blow you out of the water by deliberately making you look bad somehow. That is ****block and against the Geneva Convention of picking up chicks.
Amen to that!!

****blocking should be a misdemeanor in most states, I AM SERIOUS!!
 

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The worst form of life is the female ****blocker. The type of girl in the group who will try to pull the girl your'e talking to away from you to join their group. Its usually the one who no guys usually talk to.
 

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Thats why I always bring reinforcements. While I do some solo game once in a while, especially to practice before an outing, I love having my wings there, especially to block the ****blockers.

Only drawback with that is making sure everyone holds the line long enough for everyone to succeed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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