"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dealing with the AMOG

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In one of my classes I'm constantly jokin around and teasing this one girl, calling her a druggy and stuff, just whatever... And there's this other big guy, probably the biggest player-type in the school, coming over and talking to her, coming on wayy strong (but fairly smooth, this guy knows his ****).

The question is, she's blowing him off and sorta laughing at him, but you never know with chicks, she's not being super unresponsive so this guy might be playin it right. Any suggestions on how to deal with this? He comes on very strong, so much that it seems like I could just let her get uninterested on her own. But what do I do exactly when he's around? I can't just stop talking to her like some sort of wimp who'll just wait and let them flirt.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Create Reality

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Take him around the corner, and then fart in his face!

He'll be like, :cuss: and you'll be like :up:
 

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if you think you have something particularly in common with this girl, try to emphasize that to form a connection

if not, then just don't worry about it so much and let whichever of you is the better pimp have her. focus on other girls

actually, focus on other girls either way, but you get the idea...
 

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The question is, she's blowing him off and sorta laughing at him, but you never know with chicks, she's not being super unresponsive so this guy might be playin it right. Any suggestions on how to deal with this? He comes on very strong, so much that it seems like I could just let her get uninterested on her own.
Bingo!

But what do I do exactly when he's around? I can't just stop talking to her like some sort of wimp who'll just wait and let them flirt.
Depends upon how intrusive he is. If the interruptions are brief, and you just get back to your conversation. You might even make an offhand comment along the lines of "people just have no manners these days," in an amused tone of voice, and roll your eyes.

If he interrupts in a real pushy, obvious way, say something to the effect of: "Excuuuussse meee, we're having a conversation. Didn't your mom and dad teach you any manners?" in a firm, but calmly amused, rather than aggressive voice, again rolling your eyes. There will really be nothing he could say or do at that point without looking like a right twit.
 

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The minute you start to worry about another guy possibly getting it on with your target is the minute your game starts to shift from standard macking procedure to obsessive oneitis protocol. Oneitis is neither romantic or attractive and in the end you will lose. It has happened to me before and of course, I didn't get the girl. The best thing to do in this situation is to keep yourself occupied with other people. Don't stop talking to your target but don't feel the need to engage in more interaction with her. Use that time for other things. Hang out with your friends. Talk to other girls. Go to the gym. Watch your favorite TV show. Play your guitar. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself grounded. Then minute you start to feel jealous over an Alpha Male/Other Guy, you know that you have to control the urge to make yourself more desirable to this girl (chances are, you will look less desirable) and this is done by forcing yourself to focus on other things and other people.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok all I'm going to say is that anyone can talk bro anyone can. I can do that you can do that. She knows that both you and big stud are into her. The question is are you gonna keep talking to her or do something about it ?

If you have built enough rapport ask her to hang out, and go in for the kiss. Only the bold win the girl.

So my question to you is "Everyone can talk the talk, Can you walk the walk ?"

If you can then dont worry about the other guy, if you cant then better luck with some other girl.
 
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