"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dealing with someone who forgot you

lhtl

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Last week I met a girl and we had a fun time. She kept telling me how much fun she was having with me. I kept busting her balls and followed all the DJ advice and played it cool. The only mistake I know of was letting her end the conversation, after an hour or so. I should have ended it sooner once I got her number.

I never called her but I met her again yesterday and she seemed friendly again. After we talked for a couple of minutes she said she didn't really remember me or what we had talked about and that I should remind her. I said I don't do that and if she didn't remember me I was wasting my time. At this point she got really agitated and kept begging me to forgive her and we should start again but I didn't know how to deal with the situation so told her I'm not interested anymore and I said goodbye.

How could I have handled it better the second time?

Thanks for any suggestions.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TooColdUlrick

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she probably said she didn't remember you because she gave you her number and you didn't call--implying that you didn't care much about her, or at least enough to call her. she probably remembered you.

sounds like a t!t for tat on her part, to save face, or implicitly "reject" you as you "rejected" her for not calling. fair enough. you should have called her.

then again, she might not give a rats ass about you. :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Next time make a more concrete impression so that you will be memorable. Oh yeah, call the next time you get a woman's number.
 
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