"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dealing with rudeness

Sweetcheeks

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Hi guys,

This is pretty much a repost to a current thread, but I was surprised enough that no one on the thread mentioned "How to deal with rudeness" that I thought it might be helpful to make sure some of you saw this.

The context was, one of the DJDF members related a story about how he approached a lone female, and later a group of females, in a friendly, confident, and non-offensive manner, and was promptly told to "F**k OFF". He essentially smiled unfazed, and tried a few more times to spark social interaction, and failed. Other members applauded his nerve, which is great, but no one suggested CALLING THESE WOMEN ON THEIR BAD BEHAVIOR.

In some cases, bad behavior of this nature is a test to determine if you have the balls to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.

I suggest that you REFUSE to accept bad behavior. CALL THEM on their rudeness. Honestly, does approaching them in a friendly and confident manner really merit such a degree of CRASS RUDENESS.

They were downright offensive. Don't get angry, but get SERIOUS. For example, you could say spmething like:

"EXCUSE ME? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE, to talk to ANYBODY like that? I don't know if you were abused as children or something, but where I come from, politeness is not optional. I really PITY YOU. Why don't you guys learn to HAVE SOME CLASS for a change?"

Demand an apology. Then shake your head at them and TURN YOUR BACK TO THEM to leave.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tactic

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Well I don't demand an apology by saying.. "SAY IT"

I just wait and let them think again...Why should I even bother to argue with something that will:

1)Lead to bigger arguments
2)make me feel guilty for making the argument bigger
and
3)be pointless later on and won't affect me if i don't argue
 
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