"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dealing with rudeness

Sweetcheeks

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Hi guys,

This is pretty much a repost to a current thread, but I was surprised enough that no one on the thread mentioned "How to deal with rudeness" that I thought it might be helpful to make sure some of you saw this.

The context was, one of the DJDF members related a story about how he approached a lone female, and later a group of females, in a friendly, confident, and non-offensive manner, and was promptly told to "F**k OFF". He essentially smiled unfazed, and tried a few more times to spark social interaction, and failed. Other members applauded his nerve, which is great, but no one suggested CALLING THESE WOMEN ON THEIR BAD BEHAVIOR.

In some cases, bad behavior of this nature is a test to determine if you have the balls to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.

I suggest that you REFUSE to accept bad behavior. CALL THEM on their rudeness. Honestly, does approaching them in a friendly and confident manner really merit such a degree of CRASS RUDENESS.

They were downright offensive. Don't get angry, but get SERIOUS. For example, you could say spmething like:

"EXCUSE ME? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE, to talk to ANYBODY like that? I don't know if you were abused as children or something, but where I come from, politeness is not optional. I really PITY YOU. Why don't you guys learn to HAVE SOME CLASS for a change?"

Demand an apology. Then shake your head at them and TURN YOUR BACK TO THEM to leave.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tactic

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Well I don't demand an apology by saying.. "SAY IT"

I just wait and let them think again...Why should I even bother to argue with something that will:

1)Lead to bigger arguments
2)make me feel guilty for making the argument bigger
and
3)be pointless later on and won't affect me if i don't argue
 
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