"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dealing with people that stare

Oneday_

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Hi guys I'm curious how you all deal with people who stare constantly at you or your significant other.

My gf is 7" taller than me and unusually tall for a woman while I'm pretty short for a guy. So for societal statistics we aren't the "norm" this creates a lot of staring from others and even at times can over hear whispering about us.

Generally I just take it as a compliment but recently creepier men have been giving looks at my gf and I get the inkling they'll say/do something trying to out "alpha" me due to my height.

I'd probably ignore it and it make a snide remark but I feel someone like that would try to escalate to a fight. I especially sense this from younger guys in their teens/early 20s.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alvafe

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trust this, people are cowards, no one will start a fight, if they really do they will have friends to back him up so unless you know how to defend yourself you can't do much. ignoring and staring like he is a retard and after he stop talking you just keep going will do the trick. you can also jsut hold your GF and kiss her to make then go away, most people try to avoid such things
 

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You are in public. Let them look. Honestly I couldn't help but stare at certain people for whatever reason...not trying to be rude but maybe the woman is exceptionally beautiful or dressed slutty. or maybe in your situation your girl can slamdunk on you, its gonna catch some attention man. you need to be confident enough to ignore the looks and the stares. Now if someone is being rude or blatantly invading your privacy/space..as in you are out to dinner and some douche at the next table is blatantly looking, what you should do is make direct threatening eye contact and say "hey there sir can I help you? I noticed you staring at me/us/my gf".

Proceed from there, and always keep the 45 on deck in case scumbags want some static and you need to protect the life of you and yours. dont go looking for trouble now tho, since you are a manlet (anyone below 5'8) and manmores will try to out alpha you...you need to be a little extra agressive in your stance/appearance/demeanor etc and have that fighters confidence. in fact you should be in some type of combat sport training anyway (i think all guys should).
 

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Trust me I've accepted my height years ago just never thought I'd be with someone that much taller which does bring on stares
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hi guys I'm curious how you all deal with people who stare constantly at you or your significant other.

My gf is 7" taller than me and unusually tall for a woman while I'm pretty short for a guy. So for societal statistics we aren't the "norm" this creates a lot of staring from others and even at times can over hear whispering about us.

Generally I just take it as a compliment but recently creepier men have been giving looks at my gf and I get the inkling they'll say/do something trying to out "alpha" me due to my height.

I'd probably ignore it and it make a snide remark but I feel someone like that would try to escalate to a fight. I especially sense this from younger guys in their teens/early 20s.
Your best reaction is no reaction. Are glances and snide coments uttered under your breath going to rock you ?

Hold your head high. And focus on your lady, not them. Hold your frame and keep your cool and your lady will view you as the alpha male no matter how much they attempt to out alpha you.
 
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