Dealing with people that stare

[Oneday_]

Hi guys I'm curious how you all deal with people who stare constantly at you or your significant other.

My gf is 7" taller than me and unusually tall for a woman while I'm pretty short for a guy. So for societal statistics we aren't the "norm" this creates a lot of staring from others and even at times can over hear whispering about us.

Generally I just take it as a compliment but recently creepier men have been giving looks at my gf and I get the inkling they'll say/do something trying to out "alpha" me due to my height.

I'd probably ignore it and it make a snide remark but I feel someone like that would try to escalate to a fight. I especially sense this from younger guys in their teens/early 20s.

 

[Alvafe]

trust this, people are cowards, no one will start a fight, if they really do they will have friends to back him up so unless you know how to defend yourself you can't do much. ignoring and staring like he is a retard and after he stop talking you just keep going will do the trick. you can also jsut hold your GF and kiss her to make then go away, most people try to avoid such things

 

[Julian]

You are in public. Let them look. Honestly I couldn't help but stare at certain people for whatever reason...not trying to be rude but maybe the woman is exceptionally beautiful or dressed slutty. or maybe in your situation your girl can slamdunk on you, its gonna catch some attention man. you need to be confident enough to ignore the looks and the stares. Now if someone is being rude or blatantly invading your privacy/space..as in you are out to dinner and some douche at the next table is blatantly looking, what you should do is make direct threatening eye contact and say "hey there sir can I help you? I noticed you staring at me/us/my gf".

Proceed from there, and always keep the 45 on deck in case scumbags want some static and you need to protect the life of you and yours. dont go looking for trouble now tho, since you are a manlet (anyone below 5'8) and manmores will try to out alpha you...you need to be a little extra agressive in your stance/appearance/demeanor etc and have that fighters confidence. in fact you should be in some type of combat sport training anyway (i think all guys should).

 

[LiveYourDream]

You have self judgement and insecurity about your height. Your girlfriend being 7" taller amplifies your insecurity and self judgment even more. People staring, when you are together, amplifies it even more still.

Get clear that the primary issue isn't people staring, your height difference, or even your own height. The primary issue is your own insecurity and self judgement about it. Focus on shifting that. If you were accepting of your own height and thus the height difference, people's stares wouldn't bother you as they do. You'd be indifferent to them.

Rather than be irritated by people's stares, decide to use them as a cue to practice your own level of indifference, right then in those moments. Choose to use it as an opportunity to better yourself, right then and beyond. Don't practice being indifferent from a place of irritation at them, but rather from choosing to become a better version of yourself. When people stare and you are unaffected, you'll know you made it to the other side. Make that a goal for yourself.

Consider that your GF chooses specifically to be with you. Clearly you are man enough for her. Clearly your height isn't an issue for her. Catch up to that, inside yourself. Take that in. More importantly, find that place where your height is no longer an issue inside of you, and live from there. From there, the looks of others will no longer phase you.

TL;DR in bold above

 

[Oneday_]

Trust me I've accepted my height years ago just never thought I'd be with someone that much taller which does bring on stares

 

[BeExcellent]

Wink, smile broadly, and or give the "thumbs up".

Revel in the attention. This will make others self conscious about their behavior because you are then calling them out in a confident way.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Trust me I've accepted my height years ago just never thought I'd be with someone that much taller which does bring on stares

Indifference is what will set you free.

 

[dude99]

Hi guys I'm curious how you all deal with people who stare constantly at you or your significant other.

My gf is 7" taller than me and unusually tall for a woman while I'm pretty short for a guy. So for societal statistics we aren't the "norm" this creates a lot of staring from others and even at times can over hear whispering about us.

Generally I just take it as a compliment but recently creepier men have been giving looks at my gf and I get the inkling they'll say/do something trying to out "alpha" me due to my height.

I'd probably ignore it and it make a snide remark but I feel someone like that would try to escalate to a fight. I especially sense this from younger guys in their teens/early 20s.

Your best reaction is no reaction. Are glances and snide coments uttered under your breath going to rock you ?

Hold your head high. And focus on your lady, not them. Hold your frame and keep your cool and your lady will view you as the alpha male no matter how much they attempt to out alpha you.