Dealing with male aggression

[derby1]

one of my mates if anyone was to initiate then heavily disprespect him he literally drops them there and there on the spot...
and my god hes good at it they dont do it again....this mate also has women in abundance on the weekend but he could not keep a relationship for more
than 10 days

BUT he doesnt care about this theres the twist so hes actually naturally indifferent

so does this make him alpha/feared through violence?

he also does things like if his phone battery goes the phone stays on the side for 4 days lifeless
and all the women blowing up his phone are still blowing it up they still drop what they were doing to
come round to him in an instant.........its amazing he dont even surf the net he wouldn't have a clue
what us lot were on about

 

[2Rocky]

Make light of your shortcomings but don't take any ****.

Brothers say you're bald, then "I grew through my hair"

Poke your belly and call you fat "I'm upgrading my six-pack to a keg"

Criticize your style "Macklemore wrote "Thrift Shop" after he saw my style, seems like it;s working for him"

You take away their power when they see it doesn't bother you. Use their criticism to demonstrate your sense of humor. You prove so much by not proving anything.

The most important thing is you do is to not lose your cool. I had to call out a relative once in front of my girlfriend for nagging me about something I hadn't done. She did it as a power play and I realized I had to stand up for myself then and there. I think she thought I wouldn't make a scene infront of GF. I didn't make a scene but I" stated quietly that I didn't appreciate being nagged about something that i hadn't done and wasn't a problem. The relative was quiet for a few seconds then said "OK, Sorry."

So if you need to shut down a critical brother, deflect, agree and amplify his criticism at first then call him out on his **** and make it clear you don't appreciate it WITHOUT SEEMING UPSET. In the same tone as if you were asking him to pass the salt.

 

[Cambridge]

You're looking for external solutions to an internal issue. Honestly, bro, you sound overly sensitive & like a little bit of a wet blanket. WHY TF DO YOU CARE WHAT PEOPLE SAY?

pretty much it. you're beta and dating a wh0re. these guys, who are probably only a little more alpha than you, see you with her and naturally will try to dominate you or flirt with her. Ultimately they will turn your girls attention away from you and become selected as her next suitor.

you have work to do.

 

[englishman]

Yep... sometimes us guys are ****heads and have bad form! sounds like your brothers have bad form . Say something to embarrass them like "hey, don't mind him he hasn't been laid in a long time" call it out in a round about way and show them for the hard up jealous fvcks that they are (even if they are your brothers)

 

[Dingo]

Two fold problem. You need to get a sense of humor for one, and learn the art of verbal self defense. Secondly, you have to evaluate if your brothers are really trying to hurt you or not.

This... You douche bag brothers are trying to get a rise out of you... Diffuse with humour. Once they see they can't shake you they will get bored and leave you alone.