NeverChase
Don Juan
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- Oct 22, 2014
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I had a fight with my 2 years LTR, we had a lot of those in the last months.
She lied my dad told her I wasn't home, to find out if I was. She wasn't even suspicious of anything, she just wants to know everything until she gets bored of me, like many women do.
I had another big fight with her before, she was lying again, just to look miserable. She found a condom in my wallet after the fight, but I put it there just to show her how close I was to dump her, didn't really plan on using it. (This was a bad strategy IMO ! you should always leave her in doubt how serious you take her ! She just adapted to me not giving a **** about her, and stopped giving a **** either).
So in the last fight, she might have thought I'll dump her finally. She came to my house, texted me "I'm here, I have no battery" and waited 2 hours in the cold, draw "I love you" "sorry" on the ground with leafs, I talked to her and she insisted it was an innocent mistake, but I knew it wasn't. So I told her to go home, she started crying really hard because she didn't want to wait and see if I take her back, like the last time I soft nexted her for her lie.
I got back to her just because of the doubt - why would she wait 4 days and not just admit her lie ?
She told me she didn't eat and wash her hair when we didn't speak.
BUT ... She did go out with a bunch of guys, twice. And told her family we broke up (I didn't tell her we did), probably told these guys too.
She met one of them with me, he looks alpha but another friend told me he's just a lame fraud, he knows him pretty good.
She didn't really know anyone else in that group, and she's not that social, so the only reason she'd go out with them was this guy.
Some info leaked to me - the guy is into her and he's trying to get her. He also invited her with me to his birthday before this happened (he talked to her, not to me) and she wanted to go, but only if I come.
If she was doing this to fool me, she wouldn't do it two days in a row.
I'm having a very hard time to put my emotions, time and money (she has a b.day soon) into her now.
I don't know if she did anything really wrong, but I feel like I'm too weak and too black&white to live with the fact she's giving chances to other guys who attract her.
I feel like I want to find out she crossed the red line already and get her out of my life, but she's my first serious GF and I'm her first, and this story could be her trying to have a life without me after she saw the condom. Even if it was a real thing, I don't know if I should take her serious enough to get hurt from this.
She used to have insane unconditional clingy love for me that made me feel like I have some life insurance with her, to the point where I didn't feel the need to work on myself, which isn't a healthy thing that I should want to have back, so I'm not sure I should really mind this whole story. Maybe I should just deeply accept I don't need deep love from women, and something like this story is legit ?
She lied my dad told her I wasn't home, to find out if I was. She wasn't even suspicious of anything, she just wants to know everything until she gets bored of me, like many women do.
I had another big fight with her before, she was lying again, just to look miserable. She found a condom in my wallet after the fight, but I put it there just to show her how close I was to dump her, didn't really plan on using it. (This was a bad strategy IMO ! you should always leave her in doubt how serious you take her ! She just adapted to me not giving a **** about her, and stopped giving a **** either).
So in the last fight, she might have thought I'll dump her finally. She came to my house, texted me "I'm here, I have no battery" and waited 2 hours in the cold, draw "I love you" "sorry" on the ground with leafs, I talked to her and she insisted it was an innocent mistake, but I knew it wasn't. So I told her to go home, she started crying really hard because she didn't want to wait and see if I take her back, like the last time I soft nexted her for her lie.
I got back to her just because of the doubt - why would she wait 4 days and not just admit her lie ?
She told me she didn't eat and wash her hair when we didn't speak.
BUT ... She did go out with a bunch of guys, twice. And told her family we broke up (I didn't tell her we did), probably told these guys too.
She met one of them with me, he looks alpha but another friend told me he's just a lame fraud, he knows him pretty good.
She didn't really know anyone else in that group, and she's not that social, so the only reason she'd go out with them was this guy.
Some info leaked to me - the guy is into her and he's trying to get her. He also invited her with me to his birthday before this happened (he talked to her, not to me) and she wanted to go, but only if I come.
If she was doing this to fool me, she wouldn't do it two days in a row.
I'm having a very hard time to put my emotions, time and money (she has a b.day soon) into her now.
I don't know if she did anything really wrong, but I feel like I'm too weak and too black&white to live with the fact she's giving chances to other guys who attract her.
I feel like I want to find out she crossed the red line already and get her out of my life, but she's my first serious GF and I'm her first, and this story could be her trying to have a life without me after she saw the condom. Even if it was a real thing, I don't know if I should take her serious enough to get hurt from this.
She used to have insane unconditional clingy love for me that made me feel like I have some life insurance with her, to the point where I didn't feel the need to work on myself, which isn't a healthy thing that I should want to have back, so I'm not sure I should really mind this whole story. Maybe I should just deeply accept I don't need deep love from women, and something like this story is legit ?
