"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dealing With Her Friend

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englishcrap

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On friday I was chatting to this girl in a bar. Initially I introduced myself to both the girls then focused on chatting to the one girl.

Well anyway I began kino and then said to her "Hey lets have a look at your palm".

Her friend barked out "I dont think she wants her palm read she had it read when we were in South America"

I didnt say a word and just ignored her. Then she said the same thing again. I replied "Hey listen, if she doesnt want her palm read she can tellme herself shes a grown woman"

I then turned back to the girl I was chatting to her and said "Hey is that your big sister shes very protective aint she". She giggled..

By this time the other girl was well pissed off. She then told her mate oh come on I am going now. I managed to get the girls email address, just before they left.

My question is how do you deal with a situation like this ? When the other girl gets jealous when your not giving her attention.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey englishcrap,

My guess is the girl was pissed that you where ignoring her and she probably felt like a bit of a spare part while you where coming on to her mate.

Think how she felt, you approach them both and then ignore her. She was probably feeling really f-cked that you wherent chatting her up, and a little bit jelous of her mate .... take it as a compliment and next time try and isolate the one you fancy in some way ... get your mate or something to run interference with the one you dont fancy.
 
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this is the perfect example of needing a wingman.
if you go out with a bud and switch back and forth to being each others wingman he wouldhave distracted the other girl while you innitiate more kino and you probably would have gotten farther than an e-mail close.
although it is good to go out by yourself if you go with a friend and split-up in a bar lets say... if you need a wing call your friend over or establish a signal for him to come over and talk to the other girl or w/e.

I meen come on haven't you seen the coors wingman commercial (if not you should it's funny and perfectly describes your situation).

Hope you won't get too many instances like that
 
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