"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dealing with HB9.0. She always thinks she's right!

girlsarecrazy

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She thinks she can go out and disrespect me and think nothing of it.... and when i try to confront her about it she'll just get pissed at me even more because she doesn't think she done wrong.

Last night i was tossed and thrown around on the phone for 2 hours. She would call me, talk for like a 30 seconds and say,

"Got to go! My shows on! Call you in a lil!"

Then hang up. She wouldn't even care if I said bye or anything. She did that twice. Then the third time she called back I answered the phone with,

"I'm falling asleep, I'll talk to you tommorow.."

She cuts me off and is like, "Mikey! Wake up! Talk to me.. "and then we get a conversation going for like a minute. Then I was talking and started to get into something and she cuts in is like,

"Got to go! My shows on again. Talk to you tommorow!"

and hangs up. That's total disrepect...

I text'd her and said, "Way to be ****ing rude! Don't bother calling back"

She didn't get the text until this morning when she wakes up for school @ 6:30AM. I sleep until like 10AM. I don't answer any of her calls. After the 3rd call she texts me,

"I don't care if u were kidding or not.. Ur an *******"

I don't reply.

She rings my phone two more times while she's in school!

I finally answered the second one and was like ugh.. hello..

She asks me what my problem was. Then i'm ask, "What was the last thing i said last night?"

She pauses. I say, "That's right you don't know because you cut me off and hung up"

She doesn't fully understand what i'm trying to say and she asks me, "What did you say?"

I told her, "That's besides the point, I won't be disrespected over the phone like that, What you did last night was basically me at your door saying goodnight and you cutting me off, shoving the door in my face and saying Got to go watch my show!"

She told me to grow up and I just hung up the phone.

It's okay for her to get mad at me.. but when I get mad at her she'll flip out.
 

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Distance yourself. This girl is playing the hot/cold game like a rabid monkey. Stop running the relationship on her terms and her schedule. You're just getting yourself dragged around. Stop calling her so much, but when you do have a phone call, make it a GOOD conversation. None of that awkward silence or social bullcrap. If all else fails, next her. You don't want a woman who is selfish like that.

-Daiman
 

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Why are you still with her?

She does things that you feel are disrespectful, yet you stay for the *****.

Not a good idea. Every girl has a ***** so why take disrespect for this one.
 

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The brother is used to the drama of this b!tch.

Blow your load on her face and then take whatever cash she has in her purse.

On your way out the door gleefully remind her how right she is that dumping a load on a worthless cvnt like her can make a man happy :yes:
 

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Heh, I never call her. But I def. distant myself from her and it worked. She texted me and i didnt respond... When school let out, she called me wants to take me out.

I'm just trying to get my d!ck wet now, I really don't want to go out with her somewhere...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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girlsarecrazy said:
I'm just trying to get my d!ck wet now, I really don't want to go out with her somewhere...
If your just playing games with her to get some sex, great.

But it sounds like she is playing you and you are chasing in the hopes that the sex keeps coming. Cut it off now and find a new girl. Even if you go a couple months without sex, it's better than trading your self-respect just to keep having regular sex.
 

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We're just FWB btw. I'm allowed to see others all I want. She doesn't hold me back.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
The brother is used to the drama of this b!tch.

Blow your load on her face and then take whatever cash she has in her purse.

On your way out the door gleefully remind her how right she is that dumping a load on a worthless cvnt like her can make a man happy :yes:
I second that!
 

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girlsarecrazy said:
We're just FWB btw. I'm allowed to see others all I want. She doesn't hold me back.
How many other girls are you currently having sex with on a regular basis?

FWB is just a title. If you still only see her, put up with her drama, and aren't actively engaged in f*cking other girls then FWB is meaningless and you might as well think of yourself in a regular relationship.

Now, if you are actively f*cking other girls, why tolerate her **** for even 1 second? Tell her to cut the drama or she doesn't get any more sex. If she leaves, no biggie since you have others waiting for her spot.
 

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What is up with all the guys around here trying to tell a girl that they are disrespected?

That will never work! All that your doing is giving her a chance to have something to start a fight over, which you will never win. Girls live for that stuff and will not pull punches.

The best thing to do when you feel disrespected is to act like you feel disrespected. Instead of telling her that you are pissed if she hangs up on you than dont answer the phone again that day. Even better than that call up a different girl to hang out or go out with some friends if you have the time.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dude, you need to stop letting her play you. DISTANCE YOURSELF for several days. IGNORE HER completely. Then her interest levels will go up enough that you can pull the ball back into your court. Otherwise the only one getting screwed is your hand.
 

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Ugh this b!tch reminds me of a relative of mine.

Trust me dude she will never get what you are saying and will always make everything your fault.

Next or have fun in a horrible go nowhere relationship.
 

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Well you know what to do - I assume that was just a venting post.

And stop answering your phone for a week and see how things change.
 
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