Dealing with guys.

[MrP]

I've heard a lot about how when you try to become an alpha male, a lot of people will try to keep you as an afc because they feel jealous, threatened, etc... So, after making some progress, I realized this was 100% true. A bunch of guys that are in one of my classes keep calling me gay, a faggot, retarted, one guy even said he wished I would die... You get the picture. Basically I just ignore it or try to remain unaffected, but its getting harder. Suggestions?

 

[Bladerunner]

From the 48 Laws of Power:

Law 2 - Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies

Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.


Law 36 - Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge

By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

I'd go ahead and read all of the Laws. I think you'll find that many of them can be applied to your issue.

 

[CarlitosWay]

I've heard a lot about how when you try to become an alpha male, a lot of people will try to keep you as an afc because they feel jealous, threatened, etc... So, after making some progress, I realized this was 100% true. A bunch of guys that are in one of my classes keep calling me gay, a faggot, retarted, one guy even said he wished I would die... You get the picture. Basically I just ignore it or try to remain unaffected, but its getting harder. Suggestions?

It's really hard to gauge what exactly is going on here, especially over the internet none the less.

You have made progress, good keep going. You're getting called gay,faggot,retarded and even wishes of death upon you?

Those seem a bit extreme. Maybe you're around some pretty damn hostile guys or maybe you did something real, real disrespectful to one of them. I mean it's hard to say. Did you bang one of their ex-gf's or other girl whom they are friends with or something?

I would act indifferent, just keep your chest high and keep going forward. There is probably some details you have left out, if you did and know it's what is causing some of these insults/drama from these guys. Lay them out here, even if you know you're in the wrong. We all make mistakes.

A don juan to me, is a well respected and educated man. Who knows when enough is enough and doesn't take bull**** from any man or woman.

I like that quote "Don't stoop to a fools level, or they'll beat you with experience" one of the user here has it and I think it's great.

 

[MrP]

Hmmmmmm... Well, only one of the guys has a gf and I've never even talked to her. The other guys are one grade lower than me and him and seem to follow him. It's funny how you can see how insecure and needy they are. Attention wh0res! haha

 

[CaptainJ]

Hmmmmmm... Well, only one of the guys has a gf and I've never even talked to her. The other guys are one grade lower than me and him and seem to follow him. It's funny how you can see how insecure and needy they are. Attention wh0res! haha

This is the right attitude to have. See them for what they really are: jealous and insecure. Every aspiring Don Juan goes through this phase, where other boys, especially your friends drag you down and try and keep you in the image they have created for you. At first they look at you with disdain, then it turns to hostility as they become jealous and threatened by you. Then it turns to respect, as they finally accept their inferiority to you and accept your new image. Ofcourse the bigger egos find it harder to accept you, and the AFCs never accept you.

I've found the key to this for me has been getting bigger and stronger. Start lifting weights and get squatting, it will make a huge difference. No one dares call the huge strong guy a faggot.

The best you can do right now is to distance yourself from them, it's easier to ignore them when they aren't always in your face. And just carry on succeeding. Let their attempts to drag you down spur you on to be the best.

 

[MrP]

Thanks for the help.