"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dealing with girls who don't want to be seen as sluts

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A lot of women are programmed whether it is by society, religion or friends to put their guard up against men who want immediate sex. These women don't want to be seen as sluts or get used and therefore are nervous/wary of getting too sexual too early.

So what's the best way to deal with girls who put their anti-slut guard up?

Would you be sexual anyway? And what would you do if they reject your sexual advances?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Be subtle, use innuendos. Tell them nobody has to know.

If they reject and keep rejecting just move on, some of them simply won't change their mind.
 

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"So what's the best way to deal with girls who put their anti-slut guard up?"

Simple. You don't.
 

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Play along like you couldn't agree more with their decision not to have immediate sex, do other things to build interest\attraction, then make your move.
 

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me: stop looking at me like that
her: like what?
me: like you want to rape me
her: no
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Taking a step back helps alot!!!!

Slow your game down and take it a step at a time, as long as she feels comfortable then that's the main thing.

Assure them that stays between you both and noone needs to know.

Once there comfortable, take control.

There's alot of girls i hooked up with who went slvts but used me to "practise" on.

Alot of dudes getting grade A bjs because of me hahaha
 

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^ Attraction alone doesn't = sex. That's way too simplistic. As the others are saying women need to feel safe and that things between you are private.
 

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Play along like you couldn't agree more with their decision not to have immediate sex, do other things to build interest\attraction, then make your move.
recently done this with one of my plates

she started off with the usual spiel " ive got morals" , "i make my men wait 3 months before they get any"

blah blah blah

i just agree and keep ramping up the buying tempreture

now shes sending me messages like " i need you to f@ck me so badly" , " when can i ride you next"

and also sending me filthy photos

dont listen to a word they say , just tell them they have needs just like everyone else
 

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A lot of it comes down to mindset. Girls can pick up on when you're someone who might judge them--there'll be certain hesitations in your speech and body language, etc. that will signal to her that she needs to play 'good girl' around you.

If you can internalize the belief that: Every girl wants to fvck me. Sex means nothing. I don't even count as a number., and really believe it, watch how little ASD you run into in the first place. Beyond that, just use dominance--be comfortable touching girls boldly, openly talking about sexual topics, etc. And know when to take a step back.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Isn't this the same thing as dealing with LMR on a date? You get her back to your place, succeed in making out on the couch. Start feeling her up. She pushes you away saying she can't or she isn't "that type of girl". Take a few minutes to cool, start up again. Get any woman's pu$$y wet enough and the majority of them eventually give in.
 

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What I've learned in the field:

Women's words are sh1t. If she likes you enough, she will fvck you.

There's no way a girl would deny sex from a guy she's head over heels in love with. If she's oh-so attracted to him, I don't care if she's the most religious woman on Earth. If she's attracted enough, she will fvck him on the spot. Words are nothing, actions are everything. I believe it's been preached on here too. Don't listen to the nonsense lies women talk about. They want d1ck. All women who are straight are sexual. Forget what they say, pay attention to how they act. And as far as I'm concerned, if a girl's straight and she's attracted to me, and if I work on her enough, she'll want my d1ck no matter how many times she says shes a good girl, or she doesnt do this or that.
 
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