Dealing with frustrated guys that are looking for confrontation and keep testing you?

[Good Gao]

I don't know if this is how I describe the guys but I will describe a situation which involve these kinds of guys.

By nature I am a calm and laid back guy but I tend to run into some guys who are just looking for confrontation. Most of the times these are guys who have met me a few times but they are very negative to be around. They are gossiping anyone they can and when you are chatting with your friends they are testing you. Usually this is done by delivering a slight insults or just openly insulting you out of nowhere. These guys are frustrated in life and are just looking for a fight or some kind of a confrontation with just about anyone. The amount of complaining and gossiping they do is present in every conversation you have with them, it is the only thing that happens when you hang out with them.

How do you deal with these guys?

 

[jurry]

Dont hang out with them.

 

[Mike32ct]

Dont hang out with them.

^This. You need to raise your standards and only hang out with good people. Just decent people that are respectful.

 

[The_411]

Dont hang out with them.

This or if they are good friends in a bad spot you do what you do to a woman when she brings up undesirable topics change the subject.

Granted since they are insulting you I'm guessing they're not good friends.

 

[Tictac]

Let it roll off. Stop taking the bait.

It takes two to have a confrontation.

 

[Ray S]

Stay away from negative people

 

[SeymourCake]

Drop toxic people out of your life. See yourself as a plant. If you want to be mentally and emotionally healthy, then you must trim out the dying leaves.

 

[Special EDy]

Be more aloof, and be more direct.

If they cant figure you out, and if you tend to poke fun at yourself rather than take yourself seriously, you'll be slightly less likely to be made fun of. You also must be direct, there are times when you should cut straight through the BS and say what you want to say.

In DJ terms you should be the alpha, which means you shouldnt care what they think because you know that your a decent fellow. You shouldnt be an ass who's obsessed with himself either. And sometimes, you put people in their place when they need to be. At a certain point you will just naturally have most people's respect. Be a little more assertive.
I used to be a push over, and a lot of people didnt respect me. Now that I dont give a crap, I hold firm to my beliefs but Im also kind of soft on the inside, 99.9% of people seem to respect me. Half the time I go through a door Im holding it for someone else, the other half of the time someone holds it for me.

If these were women you would hit them with a neg comment every once and a while to cut them down a notch, then build them back up with a compliment on occasion. If you balance the two you will gain control because they will subconciously want to win your approval and hear nice things, not the neg comments.

 

[Julian]

Call that **** out...Id be like "Bros, you are gossipping like some females...wheres your balls at boys?...drop this weak ****."


And if anyone has something slick to say, come at me bro.


not a single fuk given

 

[wishyo]

You don’t deal with these guys, you just avoid them. Why would you even hang around some miserable gossiping junk? You hang around interesting/successful people. There is a saying, not sure about proper wording, but idea is that you become who you hang with.