"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dealing With Flakes

Disco

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Take all attention away and they'll start wondering why you aren't chasing them anymore, then they'll chase you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DankNuggs

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Oxymoron.....you don't deal with flakes...Move on....
 

rjherche

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yeah that might work for a bit but her flakiness will ultimately make you next her.
 

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Originally posted by Disco
Take all attention away and they'll start wondering why you aren't chasing them anymore, then they'll chase you.
This tip has only been given about 29834928349823948 times on this forum. :rolleyes:
 
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