"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dealing with flakes

Chase12

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ive had this thing with this girl for quite a while met her 6 months ago we were even FWBs for a short time..

recently i started to date her and 2 weeks agowas our first date.. it went really well but the week after that she kinda ignored me.. so i guess i ignored her too..

so yesterday i asked her out again and shes lyke i cant go out more than once a weekend cuz im grounded and im already going out with a friend on friday..

i told her: yeh right.. if u dun wanna go out u can say so..

she denied that it was an excuse lyke 3 times so i bought it.. and asked her out next week.. she told me she would ask her parents

now today she just told me her parents wont let her go..

sounds lyke bull****? should i just ignore her till she brings out the subject? or should i just plain dump her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hmm

u kno i think i might just dump her ass.. shes also been weird in school lyke i try to talk to her shes like angry and bitter to me.. i guess if she wants to play games she should go **** herself

iono at start it was lyke if she was pursuing me, and now all of a sudden shes cold to me.. its lyke shes doing a push and pull thing..
 

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judge by actions,not by words. When she behaves in that way may be she really doesnt like you. If you want try to talk with her when you are alone(not over the internet,but in real) Her feelings to you (if there are any at all) will become visible.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Chase12

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well she did tell me she has always liked me and proly always will..

but judge by actions, not by words...

she always seems to pull this kinda crap when were going good

the first time i hooked up with her she LJBF me then cried a week later when i made out with another chick, then i talked to her in this party and she told me how she liked me and ****, we made out and stuff next day shes lyke, i dun want a relationship

now this time she comes out of the blue in this party and wants to talk to me.. so we talked and she apologized for ****ing me up b4 and SHE asked me out..

i have no clue wtf is going on with this chick, but she isnt really that hot (roughly a HB7) next time she wants to talk to me a month after she rejected me im just gonna tell her to **** off xD
 

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alright first of all....its L-I-K-E. She doesn't like you as a friend, and doesn't find you funny or attractive either. This is why she seems pissed, because shes annoyed by your lousy attempts to pick her up. Next her...lyke toadelly.
 

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well y did SHE aproached ME then.. i did next her a couple of months ago.. i didnt ask her out.. or tell her i liked her.. she did that... out of the blue..

well i am nexting her ne ways
 

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Chase12 said:
hmm

u kno i think i might just dump her ass.. shes also been weird in school lyke i try to talk to her shes like angry and bitter to me.. i guess if she wants to play games she should go **** herself

iono at start it was lyke if she was pursuing me, and now all of a sudden shes cold to me.. its lyke shes doing a push and pull thing..
best advice ever
 

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you give 2 chances.

If she flakes the first time, say its a fluke and give her another chance.
If you wish, you can warn her that you dont tolerate flakiness

if she flakes the second time, then its a pattern.

at this point, feel free to next her
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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THE_ADDMAN

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only a few ppl. I havent been in newmarket for a few months

I'm away at college

cant wait to go back this winter break though, see how my girls are doin :)
 

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haha oh probably

I worked with a few of em

some cute catholic girls :D
where u from Gary?
 
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