LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
I did a forum search on "stalking" and "dealing with stalking" and didn't get satisfactory results.
Here's the situation:
I met a gal who is seven years older than myself during a consulting job in a nearby city.
Right away, she was the agressor - although we swapped numbers, she called me about 90% of the time.
We hung out nearly every day at lunch, and a few times after work.
No sex yet, but heavy makeout sessions. (Her place was out of the question, and my place was because of distance and both of our work schedules. Hotels are expensive where we were).
The job ends, and now she still calls me nearly every day.
She broke a record yesterday - Between my home phone and cell phone, she called me about eleven times, usually without leaving a message!
While I was on that job, I thought I made it clear to her that I own a business that ties me up for up to 14 hrs a day, seven days a week, and that it was my priority in life right now - not women.
Anyhow, that many calls is in the "stalking" category, and at this point, I think I'm not interested in seeing her again.
I've thought about calling her and saying "look, you're calling too many times and that's a bit nuts."
But I think the best thing is just to not pick up or return calls until she goes away.
Luckily, she's a bit far away and she's unlikely to meet up with me if she decides to "pay me a visit" because I'm on the road seeing clients all day.
Anyhow, does anyone agree more with the "ignore" stragegy, or should I be more proactive?
Mods: If you still feel this thread is a rehash of older stuff, that's fine - but please suggest a search strategy...
Here's the situation:
I met a gal who is seven years older than myself during a consulting job in a nearby city.
Right away, she was the agressor - although we swapped numbers, she called me about 90% of the time.
We hung out nearly every day at lunch, and a few times after work.
No sex yet, but heavy makeout sessions. (Her place was out of the question, and my place was because of distance and both of our work schedules. Hotels are expensive where we were).
The job ends, and now she still calls me nearly every day.
She broke a record yesterday - Between my home phone and cell phone, she called me about eleven times, usually without leaving a message!
While I was on that job, I thought I made it clear to her that I own a business that ties me up for up to 14 hrs a day, seven days a week, and that it was my priority in life right now - not women.
Anyhow, that many calls is in the "stalking" category, and at this point, I think I'm not interested in seeing her again.
I've thought about calling her and saying "look, you're calling too many times and that's a bit nuts."
But I think the best thing is just to not pick up or return calls until she goes away.
Luckily, she's a bit far away and she's unlikely to meet up with me if she decides to "pay me a visit" because I'm on the road seeing clients all day.
Anyhow, does anyone agree more with the "ignore" stragegy, or should I be more proactive?
Mods: If you still feel this thread is a rehash of older stuff, that's fine - but please suggest a search strategy...