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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Dealing with Ex-Boyfriend

LadiesMan89

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So this girl I'm currently with dated this douch bag for about a year and a half. He was emotionally abusive, and finally she ended the relationship. However, he's still very attached. Their relationship ended nearly a year ago.

She's been hanging out with me a lot lately, moreso then with her friends who I am also friends with through work, but who are also friends with her ex boyfriend. At party's that she would usually be at if she weren't hanging out with me, hes been asking where she is. And her friends have been telling him that she's probably with me. So now he knows we're together.

About a week ago I was on my way to a bonfire in the woods. I was with my best friend. As we were walking down this path, these kids walked by but I couldn't make them out because it was dark. One of them yelled "You ****in faggot". I assumed they were talking to my friend because he knew them, so he responded sarcastically. Turns out that the person who said that was her ex, and he was talking to me. Now if I had known that then, theres no way the kid would've made it out of that path on his own two feet.

After talking to her about it, she wants me to do everything to avoid getting into some sort of fight with him because her friends would get mad at her for me kicking his ass. I told her, however, that if the kid tried to **** with me I would defend myself to the fullest. And I told her that even if the kid said some stupid **** to me I would probably be the first one to swing. Even though she didn't want me to do that, she seemed really attracted to the idea or at least the machismo of it, because right after we started kissing super intensely. Now I'm 6'2'', 260 lbs. I've been boxing my entire life. And my temper is really quick and strong. I doubt, that if the situation arises, I will be able to resist flooring this kid. But she doesn't want me to. So I'm not sure how I should handle the situation. The kid has been way too involved in her love life since breaking up, and tried to start **** with the last person she was involved with. I think he needs a little lesson in minding his own business. How would you guys handle this situation?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BxPrince24

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just know that anyone could be carrying a gun these days so becareful. Try talking it out with him, try to see if he'll step to you like a man and have a peaceful conversation. Something has to be done, if anything she can get her parents involved. I dunno, just don't rush to fighting, because people these days love to get beat up and then come back with a group of ppl to jump who beat them up. I've been doin MMA for a while myself, and no matter how strong I become, I still wouldn't fight unless it was my last resort because it can get you killed.
 

the_great_gaia

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yeah, i know how that is, i have an ex wife who'll pretty much do me the same way.

"who are you with?" "where you at?" etc..

that person will always be in ur way unless she hurts his feelings..
 
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