Dealing with embarrassment of performance anxiety

[mrgoodstuff]

It was more i need to show good or else kinda preasure, but Yea you got a point

When it's right you ( or me ) won't feel pressure. You'll be focused. On hittting it good selfishly enjoying the sights and sounds.

 

[Romanemp22]

When it's right you ( or me ) won't feel pressure. You'll be focused. On hittting it good selfishly enjoying the sights and sounds.

I agree man, with right girl You wont feel a damn thing about being nervous. Also the fact she is a milf made me even more centered to performe well

 

[HyenaPrince]

Also the fact she is a milf made me even more centered to performe well

Why?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I agree man, with right girl You wont feel a damn thing about being nervous. Also the fact she is a milf made me even more centered to performe well

Just your head . ive been in that sitch and it pedestals her. Where if i go into it as "the man" it ends up being insanely good sex and she loves it.

Even porn stars have issues. Lex complaining about some actresses not "helping" him and he can't get hard. What he means is shes working against him from the get go trying to be "bigger" than him.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I agree man, with right girl You wont feel a damn thing about being nervous. Also the fact she is a milf made me even more centered to performe well

You should feel you have good d1ck and your gonna fvck the sh1t outta her milf azz.

 

[Romanemp22]

Why?

I guess its because she was my first milf in bed so i had high expectation for the whole thing

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I guess its because she was my first milf in bed so i had high expectation for the whole thing

Go fvck a girl you're already good with to clear those thoughts. Obsessing down negative thoughts fvcks you up.

 

[Romanemp22]

Just your head . ive been in that sitch and it pedestals her. Where if i go into it as "the man" it ends up being insanely good sex and she loves it.

Even porn stars have issues. Lex complaining about some actresses not "helping" him and he can't get hard. What he means is shes working against him from the get go trying to be "bigger" than him.

As i said, before this i didnt even know what performance anxiety is so **** really did kick me really bad, but as i was scrolling down on Internet i realised its pretty common thing and every Man has to hit that point in life, one way or another

 

[Romanemp22]

Go fvck a girl you're already good with to clear those thoughts. Obsessing down negative thoughts fvcks you up.

Yea i was feeling Like **** these past two days so i did arrange something with another girl tomorow. The whole embarrassment thing can really get in your head man

 

[HyenaPrince]

I guess its because she was my first milf in bed so i had high expectation for the whole thing

Think of women as humans. I have to give away their super secret: they also fart and take big fat dumps after eating burritos with chili sauce. And in case you're regularly masturbating, ease up or even better, cut it out entirely. Drop watching porn. Even if that's not a problem for you, your overwhelming horniness will enforce a boner upon you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

As i said, before this i didnt even know what performance anxiety is so **** really did kick me really bad, but as i was scrolling down on Internet i realised its pretty common thing and every Man has to hit that point in life, one way or another

Just stay with females where its instantly hard. Trust me. Never force it.

 

[sangheilios]

I haven't read through all of the posts on here, so I'll provide my input.

I feel that if you aren't all that into a girl and have issues with sexual performance there is generally a reason for it, which I'll explain. I've had a couple moments with a woman who I really wasn't aroused by, it was to the point where I'd have to force myself to get maybe 50% hard. Naturally I wasn't into her and trying to force something just felt off to me, so I just didn't follow through with it.

On the flip side, I've had one date with a woman where I literally was so hard I could cut through diamonds.

I feel that if you are young, healthy (mentally and physically) and not engaging in something that would causes issues with sexual performance (drugs, alcohol, etc.) then you probably just aren't with the right woman. I think a lot of issues simply come down to men being with women that they aren't into and/or who aren't into them. You can also feel when a woman isn't really that into you and I think this nullifies your sexual attraction to her. It's when both parties have a lust for one another where none of what is being discussed should matter.

 

[HyenaPrince]

On the flip side, I've had one date with a woman where I literally was so hard I could cut through diamonds.

How sharp is your d*ck bro?

 

[Dash Riprock]

Also i stopped masturbation and porn, its toxic

Unless you're compulsive about it, I really don't think porn has much to do with it. I've read a lot of non-fap s*hit on the net and think it's BS.

It's more in your "big" head. Plus, every man needs a good "flush" of the prostate a few times a week or your chances for prostatitis and prostate cancer go up.

 

[HyenaPrince]

Unless you're compulsive about it, I really don't think porn has much to do with it. I've read a lot of non-fap s*hit on the net and think it's BS.

Even if you're not spending several hours a day rubbing your little friend while watching porn, it can definitely affect you. It's mainly about arousing associations and a regular dopamine rush. I don't know about super powers, but it's definitely helpful having that little testosterone boost when you haven't been fapping for a certain time period.

But everybody is different. Some people have higher libidos and are constantly aggressive when they don't masturbate or f*ck every day. It depends on how you feel during your daily hustle and interactions. There's always room for improvement. It's up to you to find ways to reach newer highs. One way or another.

 

[Romanemp22]

I haven't read through all of the posts on here, so I'll provide my input.

I feel that if you aren't all that into a girl and have issues with sexual performance there is generally a reason for it, which I'll explain. I've had a couple moments with a woman who I really wasn't aroused by, it was to the point where I'd have to force myself to get maybe 50% hard. Naturally I wasn't into her and trying to force something just felt off to me, so I just didn't follow through with it.

On the flip side, I've had one date with a woman where I literally was so hard I could cut through diamonds.

I feel that if you are young, healthy (mentally and physically) and not engaging in something that would causes issues with sexual performance (drugs, alcohol, etc.) then you probably just aren't with the right woman. I think a lot of issues simply come down to men being with women that they aren't into and/or who aren't into them. You can also feel when a woman isn't really that into you and I think this nullifies your sexual attraction to her. It's when both parties have a lust for one another where none of what is being discussed should matter.

I agree with you, some women turns you on more than other. I liked her and as i said she doesnt have such a nice body, still she gave birth two times so its understandable, but still i liked her, If i didnt i couldnt get hard i guess. I guess that foreplay thing and Someone earlier said that negative body Language i recived from her side made an impact in going soft, apart from performance anxiety

 

[Romanemp22]

Even if you're not spending several hours a day rubbing your little friend while watching porn, it can definitely affect you. It's mainly about arousing associations and a regular dopamine rush. I don't know about super powers, but it's definitely helpful having that little testosterone boost when you haven't been fapping for a certain time period.

But everybody is different. Some people have higher libidos and are constantly aggressive when they don't masturbate or f*ck every day. It depends on how you feel during your daily hustle and interactions. There's always room for improvement. It's up to you to find ways to reach newer highs. One way or another.

Fapping every day i think makes you a lot lazier and you just empty your ba11s mechanicalli so when sex Comes sometimes problems can ocure

Unless you're compulsive about it, I really don't think porn has much to do with it. I've read a lot of non-fap s*hit on the net and think it's BS.

It's more in your "big" head. Plus, every man needs a good "flush" of the prostate a few times a week or your chances for prostatitis and prostate cancer go up.

I agree, fapping from time to time is ofcourse healthy but constant masturbation may resolve in potential sex problems, also it deppens from person to person

 

[GearsGod310]

It's really simple for guys on here to say "just accept it".
Performance anxiety is not something you just accept, move on and then the next time you get intimate you have a raging boner.



I'd honestly say you're going to fuk up a lot after this.
PA is a constant cycle of negative thoughts and each time you fail to get an erection it gets worse and worse digging yourself in a deeper hole of negativity in your own head.
If we could all just "accept it " PA wouldn't be a thing.


I was in this situation not too long ago.
What worked for me - I would buy 50 mg pills of Viagra from Mexico. 10 pills for 20$ .
Each time I would have a girl over and I knew I was gonna smash I'd take a little bite. From the pill.


BEFORE YOU TAKE VIAGRA PLEASE SEE YOUR DOCTOR. AND MAKE SURE YOUR HEART IS HEALTHY.


You do not wanna get a priapism and lose your dik for good. -_- or have a fkn heart attack.
If you are a healthy person viagra generally a safe drug.


You have to come to point where you get off the viagra though. It's stressful when you have to rely on a stupid pill .. although it makes you a ln animal in bed.


Slowly start lowering the dosage of viagra and then you wanna be off where you don't need it. Or have some wine before sex.

 

[Romanemp22]

It's really simple for guys on here to say "just accept it".
Performance anxiety is not something you just accept, move on and then the next time you get intimate you have a raging boner.



I'd honestly say you're going to fuk up a lot after this.
PA is a constant cycle of negative thoughts and each time you fail to get an erection it gets worse and worse digging yourself in a deeper hole of negativity in your own head.
If we could all just "accept it " PA wouldn't be a thing.


I was in this situation not too long ago.
What worked for me - I would buy 50 mg pills of Viagra from Mexico. 10 pills for 20$ .
Each time I would have a girl over and I knew I was gonna smash I'd take a little bite. From the pill.


BEFORE YOU TAKE VIAGRA PLEASE SEE YOUR DOCTOR. AND MAKE SURE YOUR HEART IS HEALTHY.


You do not wanna get a priapism and lose your dik for good. -_- or have a fkn heart attack.
If you are a healthy person viagra generally a safe drug.


You have to come to point where you get off the viagra though. It's stressful when you have to rely on a stupid pill .. although it makes you a ln animal in bed.


Slowly start lowering the dosage of viagra and then you wanna be off where you don't need it. Or have some wine before sex.

I appreciate your oppinion however i cant say i agree with you. With performance anxiety most important thing is how you react to it. Its natural to freak out first time this sh1t happens to you but it deppens how you own it, whether you brush it off and be just a one time thing or you own it. It shouldnt be treated Like a burden because it will probablly create a massive fear. I do agree with viagra part, i dont see nothing wrong from using it once or twice with a new girl just to get your confidence going.

 

[Stoic]

I appreciate your oppinion however i cant say i agree with you. With performance anxiety most important thing is how you react to it. Its natural to freak out first time this sh1t happens to you but it deppens how you own it, whether you brush it off and be just a one time thing or you own it. It shouldnt be treated Like a burden because it will probablly create a massive fear. I do agree with viagra part, i dont see nothing wrong from using it once or twice with a new girl just to get your confidence going.

Exactly..usually viagara comes in 50mg usually. If you want. Cut it in half. 25 mg will probably even do the job.

You have to see a dr anyway to get it. It's not a big deal.