The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes, when it gets to the point that a man has doubts about her, with usually 3 or more consecutive occurrences over a decent amount of time as his trigger, it’s usually a serious decline in her interest level or possibly cheating. If it happens, he’s in gut check territory until a resolution of some type emerges or he preemptively ejects…
This is intuitive but the truth is actually counterintuitive. She starts disrespecting you AFTER she has cheated or is going to cheat. She is creating a justification for what she’s done or planning on doing.
