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Dealing with death

TonyTenner

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I'm not sure this has been discussed or if my experience is too narrow and is not seen in a wider context, but I've noticed women deal with loss of a loved one, like a parent, much better than a man. I've seen women who have lost their mother, who for all intents and purposes they were close to, basically with indifference. The brief grief they display has almost come across as feigned. This hasn't been a wide-spread thing but I've noticed it on more than 4 occasions. I've never seen a guy who has lost a parent deal with it with the same level of indifference. Anyone noticed this?
 

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I have seen more than one woman use the death of a loved one and emotional trauma as a justification for something else she wants to do. I have seen it more than once with a variety of women. Ever notice how easy most women can change the mood on demand when necessary for there own needs. This skill is harder for many men, switching out the bad or sad mood is harder unless we practice at it. Professional salespersons work hard on being able to do this if they are men, it comes easy for women. probably the feelings are just as strong or even stronger but then they can switch to another context completely that doesn't really include that pain(one example is monkey branch, but the idea is across all topics including death). for men our master control program is always running in the foreground. for women, it is distributed with many retries built-in. Think mainframe vs containers. If you really want ONE process to charge forward and get it done the speed and paging of the mainframe(man) will. If you want a lot of bugs and retry and isolated unique processes that can be killed and restarted transparently, containers in the cloud(women).

I used some tech terminology to explain, I will leave it to someone else to translate pls.
 

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I have seen more than one woman use the death of a loved one and emotional trauma as a justification for something else she wants to do. I have seen it more than once with a variety of women. Ever notice how easy most women can change the mood on demand when necessary for there own needs. This skill is harder for many men, switching out the bad or sad mood is harder unless we practice at it. Professional salespersons work hard on being able to do this if they are men, it comes easy for women. probably the feelings are just as strong or even stronger but then they can switch to another context completely that doesn't really include that pain(one example is monkey branch, but the idea is across all topics including death). for men our master control program is always running in the foreground. for women, it is distributed with many retries built-in. Think mainframe vs containers. If you really want ONE process to charge forward and get it done the speed and paging of the mainframe(man) will. If you want a lot of bugs and retry and isolated unique processes that can be killed and restarted transparently, containers in the cloud(women).

I used some tech terminology to explain, I will leave it to someone else to translate pls.
Yes, I've noticed women use death of a loved one as a means to provoke attention, and rarely is it subtle. I've never noticed a man do the same.
 

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I'm not sure this has been discussed or if my experience is too narrow and is not seen in a wider context, but I've noticed women deal with loss of a loved one, like a parent, much better than a man. I've seen women who have lost their mother, who for all intents and purposes they were close to, basically with indifference. The brief grief they display has almost come across as feigned. This hasn't been a wide-spread thing but I've noticed it on more than 4 occasions. I've never seen a guy who has lost a parent deal with it with the same level of indifference. Anyone noticed this?
Biologically, women are survivors. They have to survive in order for the human race to be perpetuated. This is hard wired in to them.

An example would be a tribe that is overrun by a band of conquerors. The conquerors would kill all the men and take the women. In order to survive, the women would need to switch their allegiance to the men who were now in charge. They would be dependent on these men for food and protection, there wouldn’t be much time for mourning because they had to get on with the business of surviving and having more children.

This survival instinct allows women to move on from a death more quickly than men do. And also explains why a woman will leave a man if he loses his job or is no longer able to provide some type of service for her. Her survival instincts tell her that he is useless at that point, time to move on.

-Augustus-
 

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Biologically, women are survivors. They have to survive in order for the human race to be perpetuated. This is hard wired in to them.

An example would be a tribe that is overrun by a band of conquerors. The conquerors would kill all the men and take the women. In order to survive, the women would need to switch their allegiance to the men who were now in charge. They would be dependent on these men for food and protection, there wouldn’t be much time for mourning because they had to get on with the business of surviving and having more children.

This survival instinct allows women to move on from a death more quickly than men do. And also explains why a woman will leave a man if he loses his job or is no longer able to provide some type of service for her. Her survival instincts tell her that he is useless at that point, time to move on.
I agree. This is why workplace diversity initiatives, primarily in the white collar space, that support women are a bad idea.

White a white collar man loses his job, he will lose his girlfriend or wife too. He will struggle to find new dates as well because his target dating market expects him to be employed. When a white or pink collar woman loses her job, her market value as a mate is unaffected. In fact, some women might actually get a boost from this. If she's married or co-habiting at the time of job loss, she gets more time available to devote to being a girlfriend or wife, which will make her a better girlfriend or wife. If she's single, she can either rely on her parents, beta orbiters, get involved in sugar babying/OnlyFans/Insta for money, or have more time to find a conventional boyfriend. Any way you slice it, because men don't value her provisioning and income earning capabilities, her layoff is inconseqential.

Blue collar men will often lose their girlfriends or wives upon layoff, but it's not always as damaging to their SMV as when white collar men lose a job. Men working low wage service sector McJobs who become unemployed don't take a big SMV hit either, because many are already incel. Among low wage sector workers, you either see the acne ridden, obese GameStop clerk who is invisible to women and watching a ton of porn or you see a guy working as a cashier or cook at Wendy's who gets a fair amount of trashy poontang and has 2 kids he can't support.

Women are survivors who rarely go without. That's why you see very few homeless women. Women take fewer layoffs in white collar due to pandering and diversity initiatives.
 

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I'm not sure this has been discussed or if my experience is too narrow and is not seen in a wider context, but I've noticed women deal with loss of a loved one, like a parent, much better than a man. I've seen women who have lost their mother, who for all intents and purposes they were close to, basically with indifference. The brief grief they display has almost come across as feigned. This hasn't been a wide-spread thing but I've noticed it on more than 4 occasions. I've never seen a guy who has lost a parent deal with it with the same level of indifference. Anyone noticed this?
Its the solipsism and alpha widow complex. Search on rational male. Like mother nature, female nature is ruthless.

I trip on psychedelics. I have had breakthroughs. Explore consciousness. Be on your purpose and path in life. Be willing to walk. And march to the beat of your own drum.
 

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Its the solipsism and alpha widow complex. Search on rational male. Like mother nature, female nature is ruthless.

I trip on psychedelics. I have had breakthroughs. Explore consciousness. Be on your purpose and path in life. Be willing to walk. And march to the beat of your own drum.
i never did psychedelics but arrived at the same conclusion... that nirvana is discovering the journey isn’t about puss....Tail is just a side effect of becoming the best version of yourself!
 
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