"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dealing with Competition

Ragin_Asian

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Ok so I live on college with a 5girl:3guy ratio and there seems to be a few talent going around. With the game ladder I'd say I'm about above average when it comes to guys who are on the scene. The problem is that most of my friends have better skills as they've been around and have more experience. Even though they are friends, they are still competition when it comes to girls. After all its all fair game. My best friend is probably on top of the ladder, the bast*rd lol. He tells me that me and him are probably to 2 highest on the ladder but I find that hard to believe.

Now although I have the highest amount of sex out of the group (but with just one girl), I still feel like I'm left behind in the game. Even though me and this girl got into a three-way make out session with her friend which made everyone jealous of me lol. Even though I just mentioned this I feel like I'm not in control of what I wanted because it was just too easy and I just happened to be there.

How do I deal with competition and up the ante on my DJ/PUA skills? I just want to be the prize rather than the average joe in line.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Are you trying to get skills to actually get girls or just to impress your friends?
 

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Lol i dont sleep with my friends...only hot girls...now which one is more fun.

Which one is better, you going home with the girl or seeing someone else take her home. I must admit that saying that I don't like being left behind kinda means my friends have an influence on my actions or have a pressure. But I prefer that I get the girl on my own behalf rather than getting the girl for others sunday breakfast goossip.
 

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Originally posted by Ragin_Asian
Ok so I live on college with a 5girl:3guy ratio and there seems to be a few talent going around. With the game ladder I'd say I'm about above average when it comes to guys who are on the scene. The problem is that most of my friends have better skills as they've been around and have more experience. Even though they are friends, they are still competition when it comes to girls. After all its all fair game. My best friend is probably on top of the ladder, the bast*rd lol. He tells me that me and him are probably to 2 highest on the ladder but I find that hard to believe.

Now although I have the highest amount of sex out of the group (but with just one girl), I still feel like I'm left behind in the game. Even though me and this girl got into a three-way make out session with her friend which made everyone jealous of me lol. Even though I just mentioned this I feel like I'm not in control of what I wanted because it was just too easy and I just happened to be there.

How do I deal with competition and up the ante on my DJ/PUA skills? I just want to be the prize rather than the average joe in line.
Listen this quote shows what others think about you, so you need to live up to your pontential. If you admire your homey for his skills, and he has respect for you, that means the only thing holding you back is you. You have a lot more power then you realize, so all you have to do is trust in yourself and go do it.
 

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The amazing thing about us humans is that at exactly ANY point in our lives - we can change.

You can change now... in 1 minute, in 1 year, or whenever.

So if someone is beating your game: change for the better, and improve your own game.

:p

Just my 2c.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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