So I have been using the techniques on the forum with some success.
However, there is one phenomenon I have noticed over the last two years and was not sure what to do about it. A small but regular percentage of women that I start off being friends with, but then end up having one night stands with seem ok with it at first. However, days, weeks or months after, they tell me that they regret it and want to cut off all contact with me. They always seem to place all responsibility for the encounter on me, and avoid taking any for themselves. Sometimes women who make the first move later tell me that I was the one who "pushed" them into having sex.
To put it in perspective, while I am a lot more attractive and confident then I used to be, I am still not the kind of guy that women brag about having one night stands with - I am muscular but a little dumpy, come from a racial minority and am more academic then athletic or musically inclined. As a result, sometimes I feel that this is based on the fact that girls sometimes are embarassed to admit they had a one night stand with me, as I am not "cool" enough. Is this a possibility?
I am also still the kind of guy who has a lot of female friends, and as a result, I am willing to spend time listening to a girl when she says she regrets an experience. Is that also contributing to the problem? I know a lot of my female friends talk about regretting sex with a guy, but never tell them because they think "they would be *******s about it". Should I aim to be more like those guys?
Finally, could anyone suggest ways to approach these girls when they admit they regret the experience so I can maintain the friendship, or at least minimise any feelings of animosity towards me? This is something that is confusing me, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
However, there is one phenomenon I have noticed over the last two years and was not sure what to do about it. A small but regular percentage of women that I start off being friends with, but then end up having one night stands with seem ok with it at first. However, days, weeks or months after, they tell me that they regret it and want to cut off all contact with me. They always seem to place all responsibility for the encounter on me, and avoid taking any for themselves. Sometimes women who make the first move later tell me that I was the one who "pushed" them into having sex.
To put it in perspective, while I am a lot more attractive and confident then I used to be, I am still not the kind of guy that women brag about having one night stands with - I am muscular but a little dumpy, come from a racial minority and am more academic then athletic or musically inclined. As a result, sometimes I feel that this is based on the fact that girls sometimes are embarassed to admit they had a one night stand with me, as I am not "cool" enough. Is this a possibility?
I am also still the kind of guy who has a lot of female friends, and as a result, I am willing to spend time listening to a girl when she says she regrets an experience. Is that also contributing to the problem? I know a lot of my female friends talk about regretting sex with a guy, but never tell them because they think "they would be *******s about it". Should I aim to be more like those guys?
Finally, could anyone suggest ways to approach these girls when they admit they regret the experience so I can maintain the friendship, or at least minimise any feelings of animosity towards me? This is something that is confusing me, so any help would be greatly appreciated.