Dealing with an AW and her ego

[medicinemc2]

Alright guys here is something I need a little help with that I've never really come across myself. Here are some notes on the situation. One of my friends broke up with his girl about 2 months ago and is currently seeing a new hb (don't have the title, but they are definetely dating). Now, his ex is an AW (with a capital W) and will do anything to keep that sexual power that she has with him. Unfortunately, she was recently successful and managed to get him in bed when he was drunk. Now, he is a little pissed not at the fact that he slept with her while dating someone, but more at the fact that he boosted her ego and made it seem that she still has power over his penis. How would you guys go about putting this girl down despite the fact that he gave in to her mastermind of a plan? I've told him to let her know that her performance was poor compared to what he has had after her, but I could use a little ammo to bring this b*tch down so she never pulls this type of crap on anyone again. In other words, bring that ego down to the point of no return.

 

[KontrollerX]

When dealing with a girl with Histrionic Personality Disorder the slightest negative criticism from a guy she is targeting (I use the word targeting because thats as close to love/like as these sick creatures get) will send her into a tailspin of self doubt and self hatred that will take hours to correct with her having to give her self affirmations that she isn't what that guy said.

So what I'd do if I were him if he's trying to get back at her is when she tries to contact him and make snide comments about her having sex with him just tell the guy to say "Oh was that what you call it? I've had better wet dreams than that" or have him say something to her like he doesn't want anything to do with her anymore in a nonchalant fashion because he's finally found an attractive woman for a change. :crackup:

 

[medicinemc2]

Thanks kontrollerx, that's pretty much what I told him to do. Anyone else?

 

[resilient]

how I dealt with my AW ex

Since she's addicted to attention more so then sex, then removing all attention and ignoring her is the best revenge. With the recommendation of a few DJs here, I used the book 48 Laws of Power to combat my oneitis for my ex AW. I was not only able to find confidence on my own, but I was able to root myself from her. She's called/SMS/e-mail countless times to which have all been ignored.

She was so bitter that I wouldn't remain friends with her after she cheated on me that she began prank calling me. My best solution was to change my phone number. Now she's nearly erradicated from my mind. I think I'm the first ex to ever walk away completely clean from her and that fuels her hatred towards me.

Clearly, I've never felt better in my life. It's like I can breath oxygen for the first time after suffocating for months.

AWs are crazy controlling freaks that get messy after the relationship. The only way to deal with them is to ignore them 100% and deny they exist otherwise they'll keep stalking. Eventually these psychos get the message in their head that you've moved on. Worst case scenario; have him get a restraining order if it gets ugly. Good luck with your friend Medicine...

 

[KontrollerX]

What resilient said about the restraining order is definitely a good idea if the chick has BPD.

In fact the guy shouldn't even mess with her using jokes if she's BPD as those particular Cluster B's are very unstable ie she could drive her car into his house, try to attack him and just a bunch of other nasty sh!t to get back at him if she feels insulted enough.

BPD's and HPD's act so much alike to draw you in its hard to know what exactly this girl has. Usually both but you can tell if she has BPD if you see scars on her in certain places ie cutting marks as BPD's cut and girls who strictly have HPD's don't.

Failing that a guy who wants to get rid of one of these chicks assuming she's HPD or NPD without involving law enforcement should just pretend he's obsessively in love with her as that love obsession is usually their primary goal when messing with men and once accomplished she'll get rid of that guy because she has gotten all the love she wanted and feels she's broken him and has used him up for all he's worth.

That or by the love she identifies you with someone who claimed to love her in childhood but then horribly hurt her (in a BPD's case) so she'll get rid of you for that reason.

If she's ASPD or BPD and feels insulted enough she could call the cops and claim the guy raped her and then he'll be in a world of sh!t trying to prove her wrong.

These chicks are just so dangerous in every way its unbelievable.

I guess from what I've said if you now identify her as an HPD nothing much bad should come of your friend insulting her save maybe her doing a character assassination campaign of him among mutual friends but if she's one of the more dangerous Cluster B's it could get really ugly.