Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dealing with a chick who goes distant after sex

iliketennis

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met a 20 yr old solid 8 about two weeks ago when i was out of town on business. the next week she texted me every morning, during lunch, after work, etc. very high interest levels. i drove back last weekend to see her again, we banged and it was awesome. we spent the night together and she said she'd miss me etc.

the next morning she didn't wanna have sex again. we left the hotel and she said she would miss me. i left town. she didn't contact me again until today, over facebook chat. we talked for a while. she said she found a wife for me jokingly, and when i asked why her plan to marry me changed (which she had joked about before) she said we'd be BFFs. i said that'd be great and the conversation drifted off.

next? no contact? what's the move here?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's probably awkward because the relationship hasn't been defined yet. 20 is still pretty young so having sex without really knowing whats going on between you two might be making her uncomfortable. Have you made clear to her that its strictly casual, possible LTR, FB etc. whatever it may be?

and keep in mind that if a girl is uncomfortable for any reason she will bail.
 

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iliketennis said:
the next morning she didn't wanna have sex again.
Maybe she was sore from the night before :woo:

A lot of women give "token resistance" to morning sex for some reason. My favorite response, "ok... im going to feel you and if you're not wet - we don't have sex. If you are wet - im going to break you." and then play the game from there (hint: she's most likely going to get wet from you feeling her, even if she wasn't.)


iliketennis said:
we left the hotel and she said she would miss me. i left town. she didn't contact me again until today, over facebook chat. we talked for a while. she said she found a wife for me jokingly, and when i asked why her plan to marry me changed (which she had joked about before)
Would have been better if you had asked her more about this "wife" she found instead of taking the "what about you?" bait....


iliketennis said:
she said we'd be BFFs. i said that'd be great and the conversation drifted off.
"That'd be great"????

Come on... throw some effort into it...

ME: "Put another F in it and we'll be good."
HER: "BFFFs"
ME: "Yeah, .... " (at this point make her guess, and play with it. before revealing...)

"Best friends fvcking forever... ... ... but you probably couldn't handle that much fvcking, could ya?"


Work at it...
 

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i did ask her about the wife. she said it was a hooker on her street and we joked about it a little before i asked about her plans to marry me...

i also told her that i had seen the new movie 'no strings attached' the other night (with another plate, but i didn't mention that.) she said that she liked that movie and "she wanted that" - which i'm assuming means a no strings relationship.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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1) no serious relationship, if a person, no matter if male or female can't talk about important things any relationship would be a waste of time IMHO.

2) keep her as a f*ck buddy, but you'll have to accept that she'll be complicated to deal with
 

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i have logs of the facebook chat from tonight. is anyone willing to let me PM it to them and critique it for me? i need to see where i'm sounding like an AFC
 

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You nailed a woman and she left the next morning without wanting to cuddle or discuss her feelings, ect...

I don't see what the problem is...
 

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iliketennis said:
i did ask her about the wife. she said it was a hooker on her street and we joked about it a little before i asked about her plans to marry me...
The first part is good, and as long as you played with her over it - that's fine. But again, asking her why she changed her plans is not neccesary and can come off as needy.




iliketennis said:
i also told her that i had seen the new movie 'no strings attached' the other night (with another plate, but i didn't mention that.) she said that she liked that movie and "she wanted that" - which i'm assuming means a no strings relationship.
This woman has pretty good game. I like her :up:

She actually seems pretty good at push/pull.



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i have logs of the facebook chat from tonight. is anyone willing to let me PM it to them and critique it for me? i need to see where i'm sounding like an AFC
You can send it to me, or just post it on here. I can't promise a timely response, but i'll get around to it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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iliketennis said:
i did ask her about the wife. she said it was a hooker on her street and we joked about it a little before i asked about her plans to marry me...
bukowski_merit said:
The first part is good, and as long as you played with her over it - that's fine. But again, asking her why she changed her plans is not neccesary and can come off as needy.
Yep.

ILT, something you might want to incorporate into future texts of this nature is "Agree & Amplify."

Her: "Hey ILT, I found you a wife!"
You: "Really? Cool! When's our first threesome?"

;)
 

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Forget all that conscious perception in trying to win her back.

Next time you speak to her, tell her this.

You:"You know what I think is so f*cking hot about you?"
Her: "What?"
You: "Most girls get all weird and clingy after you have sex and they try to push you into a relationship, but your not like that. I think that is so f*cking sexy. I can't stand girls who do that."

She will be frustrated inside, but will have a hard time combating that and will passively accept it.
 
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