Deafness and chicks

[Golfboy]

I'll just tell it straight out...i've had hearing problems my whole life. I'm deaf without hearing aids. Basically I can understand some speech, but in a noisy environment my comprehension approaches zero. I can't understand lyrics to music, but i could read the lyrics and follow along. Heck, i even play a musical instrument, but i can't use telephones. My hearing is okay, it's just that my comprehension sucks.

All the DJ tatics in this forum are flawed for me because they center around getting phone numbers and doing convos. Convos are difficult for me, and down near impossible on the telephone.

My point? It makes it really hard to talk to chicks. I think this is the main reason why I am lacking confidence in social encounters. I might try to have a convo with a chick that i would know from school, and it ends up being pointless because i have to keep asking for clarification. Sometimes they get a little nervous and try to speak different, and the whole situation becomes awkward. I'm pretty sure that i've turned off some girls with my lack of communication skills, which is pretty fustrating. (not to say i've never had experience with a girl, or miss obvious situations due to lack of confidence)

Has anyone had experience with this problem? What would be the best way for me to apply everything i've read on these forums?

Thanks for any help. I'm starting college this fall. I've read the bible and almost everything on this site for about a year now, but this is my first post.

 

[MackJr]

There's a movie, "pumpkin", where a woman falls in love with a mentally retarded boy.

No, I'm not saying you're mentally retarded, I'm pointing out that the key element in getting relationships aren't being a thrilling conversationalist. You obviously have to focus more on body language, and maybe focus on the "strong silent type" seduction style. These guys are average to good-looking, and they present an air of mystery that drives women wild. It's a matter of compensating, just like Stevie Wonder has all sorts of women falling over him even though he's never seen one. He mastered the use of language. (and has decent clothes-pickers and sylists)

You might also want to let her know you have a hearing impairment at some point that's appropriate so that you avoid problems.

 

[bootlegger]

communication is 7 percent verbal. The rest is non-verbal.


Besides. Powder was an albino, and he still got chicks.

Watch the movie Powder for inspiration.

 

[WaterTiger]

So play on it, WORK IT! Carry a small note pad & pen with you all the time. When you see a HB you like write down: "I'm partially deaf, give me your e-mail."

Women are nosy! She's going to want to know why you want the email, why your hard of hearing and a million other things. This makes you an instant challenge because it's hard to communicate with you. She'll HAVE to use kino, to get your attention if you aren't looking at her.

Besides, by writing notes to each other, you have a complete and exact record of what she said to you. So she can't come back with this "Oh I didn't say that!"

 

[GaryNas]

I knew this nearly-deaf guy in high school (he needed 2 hearing aids and had to give the teacher a mic to speak into), but he had 10x more dates than I did. It was all about confidence. He believed in himself and that girls would like him for who he was. It was very difficult to actually talk with him in person, and he used a TTY phone, but he used ICQ as his primary means of communication which worked fairly well...

 

[Murph]

Hey DJ's I'm new to the board, how are ya!


Golfboy, hey bro don't sweat it man... I have muscular dystrophy and I'm in a wheelchair, but we can't let disabilities stop us. MD wasn't even my problem, I let myself be a complete chump to this biotch for too long.

Look, we have to make our difficulties work for us. Your deafness allows you to skip right to the close while creating IMMEDIATE intrigue. I get to ask these women to bend over in front of me and fix my feet (haha!). I am able to use my words in places where other people might have to guess when to make a move. Plus the disability MAGNIFIES our confidence... these chicks see us exuding confidence, smiling, and being our naturally outgoing selves, they'll WANT to be around us and figure us out. They'll know there's something special about us. When we CHOOSE to talk to them or ask them out, the good ones should jump at the chance.

Always keep your head up, figuratively AND literally!