"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I still don't get deadlifts, even after having people demonstrate to me, and seen the virtual example... Every time i do deadlifts, i never feel it in my back, or i dont even know which part of my back should be feeling it. Every time i do deadlifts, i have to stop because my forearms are hurting, so basically my forearms get a better workout than my back does.. i never know to keep my legs straight or not...I just dont like them ahh
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Too bad because they're a great exercise.

Unless you're doing stiff-legged DL's don't keep your legs straight. A lot of the lifting ppower comes from your legs.
 

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Generally speaking, you won't "feel" it any specific place. I know when I get to my heavy ass sets, that my lower back feels a contraction when I get to the top, and squeeze. However, Hopefully your lower/mid back and hamstrings will feel pretty week the rest of the day.
 

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Trust me, continue getting stronger in the deadlift every week, and youll feel it when the weights get heavy. I feel in in my whole body after a deadlift workout. Not just in my lower back.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i feel a lot of pressure in my hip area i guess thats due to my wide stance was doing 210x8...does it really make that much of a difference using wide or normal stance.

You missing out bro if you don't do deads i've had someone come up to me saying they respect me cuz i deadlift so heavy
 

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VSTbeserk said:
i feel a lot of pressure in my hip area i guess thats due to my wide stance was doing 210x8...does it really make that much of a difference using wide or normal stance.

You missing out bro if you don't do deads i've had someone come up to me saying they respect me cuz i deadlift so heavy
For squats and deads,

Wide stance - More stress on hips and gluts
More narrow stance - More stress on quads
 

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Wide stance also allows for less travel distance, possibly letting you lift heavy.
 

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It's funny that I just started deadlifting and I have exactly the opposite problem as you Hockey Playa. My back needs to catch up to my legs. I am deadlifting 135 for a set of 12, and my back is barely able to handle that. I feel like my legs could handle another 10 lbs on each side for a set of 12, but I am not about to risk straining a back muscle to push myself right now. I have had people spot me to check my technique, and I am properly executing the lift. My back muscles are just hellaweak.

Keep doing them the way you are until the rest of your body catches up with your back. Maybe you just need to do more weight? If you're up over 200 lbs I'd definitely get some lifting wraps unless you've got some amazing calluses on your hands.
 

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Deadly_Ripped said:
If you're up over 200 lbs I'd definitely get some lifting wraps unless you've got some amazing calluses on your hands.
I think you're mislead as to what straps do. They basically aid you in holding on to the bar, in the instance that your grip isn't strong enough. Calluses are just toughened skin, and don't really help your grip strength.

I, personally, refuse to use straps, and prefer a staggered grip when doing my deadlifts. If I get to the point where I feel that my grip is too weak for the weight, I may start.
 

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Straps are nice for 1 rep maxes other then that i would just use gloves for deads
 

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Yar Skilla, never had so much weight on the bar to cause me to lose my grip. My forearms keep up pretty well while lifting. That's the first thing I think of when I think of using gloves and wraps.
Now I know, and knowing's half the battle.
 

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Don't worry about 'feeling' a certain exercise in certain places. Concentrate on good form, and steadily increasing the weight.

As you body adjusts, you'll start to feel the effects on different body parts.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Deadly_Ripped said:
Yar Skilla, never had so much weight on the bar to cause me to lose my grip. My forearms keep up pretty well while lifting. That's the first thing I think of when I think of using gloves and wraps.
Now I know, and knowing's half the battle.

I'd say it's even more important than that, and I can see where your thoughts were going on that. No biggie.
 

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should you use a diamond bar or straight bar for DLs? I use the Diamond Bar.
 

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I'm not sure what a diamond bar is, but I use a regular olympic bar.
 

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Diamond bar = Shrug Bar
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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