Hey guys,
Some of you all have seen some of my earlier posts - I wanted to introduce who I am. I am 25 years old, and just recently got out of a 3 year relationship that got pretty serious. It's been about a week since the breakup (that's been pretty dumb and painful, since we lived together). But either the case I am new to the PuA game, or whatever you wanna call me.
It looked pretty interesting so i've tried a few times (those who've seen my other posts) and it seems like a lot of fun if anything.
It was my first real attempt to go and 'try a game' besides letting it fall in my lap (which barely happens) - I had a lot of anxiety. It took a while to even attempt these approaches. I asumme it will get better in time, call me a pvssy or w/e but listen I've been out of the game - I knew if I could do this while sober, I'd at least boost my confidence up little by little.
So today I would give you guys 2 attempts that I tried in a pretty easy stomping ground (the mall.)
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:box: First Attempt: Blonde, Early 20's, Currently looking through clothes at a Banana Republic
How it went down:
(I was holding a shirt that I was thinking about buying from the men's section)
Me: Hi, excuse me I don't normally do this but I noticed you across the hall and I wanted to tell you you are very cute and you look like you have a sense of style.
Her: (Smiles) well thank you
(Here is where I mess up, obviously im still an amateur at this and need to work on self-confidence and ****)
Me:So, let me ask you what do you think about this shirt? I was planning on going out tonight, I haven't been out for a while, and thought I would get something new.
Her: It's okay
Me: Oh, alright thanks
(Walks away)
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Wow, just bad right? I got the reaction I wanted but couldn't get the follow through - ( Can someone explain to me better what a good Push/Pull method is? ) Also, im never gonna hold something like that again - I felt really akward because its not me and seemed like a line to her.
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:box: Second Attempt: Blonde, Single Mom, Early 30's, Walking down one of the alleyways with some clothes.
Me: Hi, excuse me I don't normally do this but I think you are very cute and wanted to say hi
Her: (Smiles) Awe thank you.
Me: I'm XXXX
(Shakes hand , holds on for a few extra seconds)
Her: I'm XXXX, nice to meet you
Me: Are you shopping for you or?
Her: I'm just here shopping for my kid we're going to a water park this weekend (kid maybe 4-5 based on the size of shoe). What about you?
Me: I'm actually on my way to meet a collegue of mine to go over some things we've been working on and then we were going to go out.
Her: Awesome
Me: So are you from around here ?
Her: I live in XXX
Me: That's awesome, I used to live up there - have you heard of this place called XXX , it's been around for 80 years and has the best pizza you'll ever have
Her: No I havent, but its around where I live
Me: gotta try it, its legendary
Her: (laugh) Yeah maybe I will
Me: well listen I have to go meet my collegue but I want to get together with you
Her: yeah, thatd be awesome do you have a card?
(I proceed to pull out my phone and start typing in her name on contacts)
Me: You know what I have too many jennifers in my phone, you need a nickname
Her: Uhm, how about Crazy Shopper Jennifer? *laughs*
Me: That works well
Her: You're not going to put that in there are you *laugh*
(I hand her the phone that says "Crazy Shopper Jennifer" and have her put in her number)
Me: Well it was great meeting you, What are you plans this weekend?
Her: I'm going to the waterpark with my kid
Me: oh, thats right, my bad - How about early next week?
Her: Uhm, nothing if you wanna text me we can do something
Me: Alright great, I'll text you
(Gave her a hug with one hand on the lower part of her back and one over her shoulder)
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Success on the number! But can you guys give me any tips to improve my approach?
Hope you enjoyed reading - Going out tonight.
Some of you all have seen some of my earlier posts - I wanted to introduce who I am. I am 25 years old, and just recently got out of a 3 year relationship that got pretty serious. It's been about a week since the breakup (that's been pretty dumb and painful, since we lived together). But either the case I am new to the PuA game, or whatever you wanna call me.
It looked pretty interesting so i've tried a few times (those who've seen my other posts) and it seems like a lot of fun if anything.
It was my first real attempt to go and 'try a game' besides letting it fall in my lap (which barely happens) - I had a lot of anxiety. It took a while to even attempt these approaches. I asumme it will get better in time, call me a pvssy or w/e but listen I've been out of the game - I knew if I could do this while sober, I'd at least boost my confidence up little by little.
So today I would give you guys 2 attempts that I tried in a pretty easy stomping ground (the mall.)
---
:box: First Attempt: Blonde, Early 20's, Currently looking through clothes at a Banana Republic
How it went down:
(I was holding a shirt that I was thinking about buying from the men's section)
Me: Hi, excuse me I don't normally do this but I noticed you across the hall and I wanted to tell you you are very cute and you look like you have a sense of style.
Her: (Smiles) well thank you
(Here is where I mess up, obviously im still an amateur at this and need to work on self-confidence and ****)
Me:So, let me ask you what do you think about this shirt? I was planning on going out tonight, I haven't been out for a while, and thought I would get something new.
Her: It's okay
Me: Oh, alright thanks
(Walks away)
+++++++++++++++++
Wow, just bad right? I got the reaction I wanted but couldn't get the follow through - ( Can someone explain to me better what a good Push/Pull method is? ) Also, im never gonna hold something like that again - I felt really akward because its not me and seemed like a line to her.
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:box: Second Attempt: Blonde, Single Mom, Early 30's, Walking down one of the alleyways with some clothes.
Me: Hi, excuse me I don't normally do this but I think you are very cute and wanted to say hi
Her: (Smiles) Awe thank you.
Me: I'm XXXX
(Shakes hand , holds on for a few extra seconds)
Her: I'm XXXX, nice to meet you
Me: Are you shopping for you or?
Her: I'm just here shopping for my kid we're going to a water park this weekend (kid maybe 4-5 based on the size of shoe). What about you?
Me: I'm actually on my way to meet a collegue of mine to go over some things we've been working on and then we were going to go out.
Her: Awesome
Me: So are you from around here ?
Her: I live in XXX
Me: That's awesome, I used to live up there - have you heard of this place called XXX , it's been around for 80 years and has the best pizza you'll ever have
Her: No I havent, but its around where I live
Me: gotta try it, its legendary
Her: (laugh) Yeah maybe I will
Me: well listen I have to go meet my collegue but I want to get together with you
Her: yeah, thatd be awesome do you have a card?
(I proceed to pull out my phone and start typing in her name on contacts)
Me: You know what I have too many jennifers in my phone, you need a nickname
Her: Uhm, how about Crazy Shopper Jennifer? *laughs*
Me: That works well
Her: You're not going to put that in there are you *laugh*
(I hand her the phone that says "Crazy Shopper Jennifer" and have her put in her number)
Me: Well it was great meeting you, What are you plans this weekend?
Her: I'm going to the waterpark with my kid
Me: oh, thats right, my bad - How about early next week?
Her: Uhm, nothing if you wanna text me we can do something
Me: Alright great, I'll text you
(Gave her a hug with one hand on the lower part of her back and one over her shoulder)
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Success on the number! But can you guys give me any tips to improve my approach?
Hope you enjoyed reading - Going out tonight.