"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Daughter of a Priest

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yeah so i have a crush on this girl right.. I know... all you dj's may be quick to say oneitus. but the thing is i like her, a lot. But i think i f*cked up. I was making so much ground you know.. using kino, being c&f.. totally flirting with her all the time. Anyways new years eve i get with one of her friends...well, not real close friends, but friends nonetheless. I was drunk, her friend was drunk.. you know how it goes. My worry... or theory is now, that because i banged her friend, I might have actually burnt my bridges with the chick I actually like (gf material). In the past, i have sort of assumed that when there is a group of girls.. if you get with one, your chances of getting with any of the others severely decreases. asd kicks in, so to speak. I'm now off limits, in other words.

anyhow, the girl i like has still texted me a few times since then... wanting to go out and stuff. maybe she just wants to be friends, i dont know... though i certainly feel that she likes me. The vibe hasnt really changed at all.. Actually, come to think of it.. she's texted me on a much more regular basis since nye. it's not awkward or anything.. meh, anywyas...just rambling now.. ah, she's the daughter of a priest as well, so that kind of adds to her hotness for some reason :p

dunno if it was a step back, or step forward.. but hey, she wants to go out friday, so i might just bite the bullet then.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tomatoes

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Daughter of a priest.....Shes not like him i hope....for your sake. Sex before marridge is wrong blah blah blah.

As for getting with her friend, if she knows about it and is fine with it then your sailing free. I had a crush on a girl (HB8) and got with her friend (HB6). Before the girl i had a crush on didnt really pay much attention to me but after i slept with her mate she was after me. I ended up hooking up with her. So it can work for you aswell as against you. Like i say if she seems unphased by you sleeping with her friend. Stop worrying and carry on.
 

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lol, nah.. she's not like him.. wouldnt be after her if she was..;)

...I'm actually thinking a bit the way you are there.. maybe me sleeping with her friend sparked her interest a bit more. She's texted me 11 times in the last week... she hardly ever texted me last year (before all this happened).. interesting..
 

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the psychology behind this is if you are wanted by others it further increases ones attraction to you. Also if you left a good impression on the other girl she no doubt told the girl your after which will also increase her attaction to you.
 
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