"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Daughter of a Priest

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yeah so i have a crush on this girl right.. I know... all you dj's may be quick to say oneitus. but the thing is i like her, a lot. But i think i f*cked up. I was making so much ground you know.. using kino, being c&f.. totally flirting with her all the time. Anyways new years eve i get with one of her friends...well, not real close friends, but friends nonetheless. I was drunk, her friend was drunk.. you know how it goes. My worry... or theory is now, that because i banged her friend, I might have actually burnt my bridges with the chick I actually like (gf material). In the past, i have sort of assumed that when there is a group of girls.. if you get with one, your chances of getting with any of the others severely decreases. asd kicks in, so to speak. I'm now off limits, in other words.

anyhow, the girl i like has still texted me a few times since then... wanting to go out and stuff. maybe she just wants to be friends, i dont know... though i certainly feel that she likes me. The vibe hasnt really changed at all.. Actually, come to think of it.. she's texted me on a much more regular basis since nye. it's not awkward or anything.. meh, anywyas...just rambling now.. ah, she's the daughter of a priest as well, so that kind of adds to her hotness for some reason :p

dunno if it was a step back, or step forward.. but hey, she wants to go out friday, so i might just bite the bullet then.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tomatoes

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Daughter of a priest.....Shes not like him i hope....for your sake. Sex before marridge is wrong blah blah blah.

As for getting with her friend, if she knows about it and is fine with it then your sailing free. I had a crush on a girl (HB8) and got with her friend (HB6). Before the girl i had a crush on didnt really pay much attention to me but after i slept with her mate she was after me. I ended up hooking up with her. So it can work for you aswell as against you. Like i say if she seems unphased by you sleeping with her friend. Stop worrying and carry on.
 

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lol, nah.. she's not like him.. wouldnt be after her if she was..;)

...I'm actually thinking a bit the way you are there.. maybe me sleeping with her friend sparked her interest a bit more. She's texted me 11 times in the last week... she hardly ever texted me last year (before all this happened).. interesting..
 

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the psychology behind this is if you are wanted by others it further increases ones attraction to you. Also if you left a good impression on the other girl she no doubt told the girl your after which will also increase her attaction to you.
 
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