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I have been dating an alpha women for about 2 weeks. we went to hot yoga on our first date,then we went hiking on the second, on the third dates we made dinner together. As we made out she mentioned that she wants to wait for intimacy to which I agree.
This past weekend we went on a getaway, slept on the same room but were not intimate.
I personally want you guys opinions and if such things have happened to any of you
 

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Yep happened to me a few months ago and ended up wasting a whole month and never sleeping with her cause I bought into that bs of “let’s wait on sex” line.
 

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wait for intimacy to which I agree.
"B!TCH WHAT IS YOU SAYIN??
ALL THAT PLAYING HARD TO GET LIL BABY STOP PLAYIN!"
-Blueface

Yo OP, come up out that oneitus real quick my G. You let her friend zone your ass.

'to which I agree'. What the fvck.
 

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Yep happened to me a few months ago and ended up wasting a whole month and never sleeping with her cause I bought into that bs of “let’s wait on sex” line.
Kiss by the second. Smash by forth, but preferably third if there is some touching an other things going on. Cheap dates til it happens. Well, cheap dates after it happens too. :'p
 

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Epiphany phase lollll

Ok slept in the same room and no sex, you think she did this with other men before you?
I think not!

Seems like a AW time waster, her interest level is not that high.
Time to show her that your time is valuable, and not to be wasted with platonic activities. i would give her less attention, your are not looking for a female friend.
 

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I have been dating an alpha women for about 2 weeks. we went to hot yoga on our first date,then we went hiking on the second, on the third dates we made dinner together. As we made out she mentioned that she wants to wait for intimacy to which I agree.
This past weekend we went on a getaway, slept on the same room but were not intimate.
I personally want you guys opinions and if such things have happened to any of you
FRIEND-ZONED. Yes, some women will make out with you, might even give you a bj just to keep you around as a friend but won’t let you actually hit it.
Pull back, less attention and for freak sake, don’t do getaways with women you’ve only been dating for two weeks.
 

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I have been dating an alpha women for about 2 weeks. we went to hot yoga on our first date,then we went hiking on the second, on the third dates we made dinner together. As we made out she mentioned that she wants to wait for intimacy to which I agree. This past weekend we went on a getaway, slept on the same room but were not intimate.
I personally want you guys opinions and if such things have happened to any of you
What makes a women who wants to wait for intimacy and not sleep together while sleeping in the room as the guy, “Alpha?”

Bro if this girl is hot, and I’m guessing she is 50% hot if does yoga, you are slow. Sleep in the same room as her and not do anything? I would be hitting it so fast is she was hot.

Either you are watching a lot of porn or are not attracted to this girl. My guess is the former.
 

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I have been dating an alpha woman for about 2 weeks......we went to (hot)[o really?] yoga on our first date, then we went hiking on the second, on the third dates we made dinner together. As we made out she mentioned that she wants to wait for intimacy to which I agree[clearly she is dominant man in the relationship]. This past weekend we went on a getaway, slept on[makes me wonder if she slept in bed and you slept on the floor] the same room.......were not intimate.
You gotta ask yourself, who is paying for dates? If the answer is you, then second question, why the fck tag along for nothing and get used like that?

Second problem here, what normal manly man does yoga, more so on a date? Wtf is that?

I bet she does want to wait for intimacy, she does not find you alpha enough, you go do yoga and sht, tag along, pay for dates. You know where this sht is going don't you? Friendship.

Take two don juan, you invite her to your place for drinks and a movie, and you escalate, and have sex with her. Don't listen to what she suggests or says, unless she screams or starts fighting. If you fck her, good, tell us, if you don't fck her this time, cut all communication and stop this kind of sht from now on. Hard next. Stop jumping through hoops like a circus lion in order to get ass, it's not healthy, that's how you get used and manipulated. If she don't accept your offer for drinks and movie at your place, next, and stop contacting her.
 
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Why does she even want to wait for intimacy and for how long? Maybe one in a million might have a good reason but most girls who do this are testing your frame. If she was testing you, odds are you already failed. I say soft next and spin plates. See if she changes her tune and if not, better cut your loses early.
 

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I have been dating an alpha women for about 2 weeks. we went to hot yoga on our first date,then we went hiking on the second, on the third dates we made dinner together. As we made out she mentioned that she wants to wait for intimacy to which I agree.
This past weekend we went on a getaway, slept on the same room but were not intimate.
I personally want you guys opinions and if such things have happened to any of you
Next her. You're entering the friendzone. Alternatively, you can back away and see if she chases you. Either way, a relationship without intimacy is just friendship. Be careful.
 

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She is the manager of a company, during the trip even though I planned all the the logistics hotel, dinner reservation etc
She checked on the waiting time of the breakfast spot and participated financially as well
 

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She.......participated financially as well
You paying most of the stuff. Stop making excuses and making it sound like you two are 50/50. Let's face it, you want something out of this, and that's sex, if you now turn around and say this is not about sex, and this is not about money you invested, you are lying to yourself. A woman is just a vagina, and her value is in providing sex. If she is not willing to provide sex, she is useless. Go ahead and setup drinks and movie at your place, and see if she fcks. If not, NC, next. If she don't want drinks and movie, same thing, NC, next. Your time is a valuable asset, and you should not waste it on women who use you for your money.

I bet if you was a woman you wouldn't like to be used for sex only. Well it is same here, only reversed, this woman is using you for your attention and money, thus far.

Stop tripping over her and see if she fcks.
 

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I had a girl that put me off 5 dates. We made out, played around, but no penetration/oral sex. She was very alpha by female standards. Executive Vice President of a company. Very independent. HB8.5-9. At the end of our 4th date I had her top off, legs around me and I picked her up, back against the wall and told her that we were having sex on the next date. Kissed her good night and left. Come time for the 5th date and she was all about having sex. She got the message that it was time to get down or I was out.
 

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I had a girl that put me off 5 dates. We made out, played around, but no penetration/oral sex. She was very alpha by female standards. Executive Vice President of a company. Very independent. HB8.5-9. At the end of our 4th date I had her top off, legs around me and I picked her up, back against the wall and told her that we were having sex on the next date. Kissed her good night and left. Come time for the 5th date and she was all about having sex. She got the message that it was time to get down or I was out.
Well played
It also built up anticipation.
 

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I had a girl that put me off 5 dates. We made out, played around, but no penetration/oral sex. She was very alpha by female standards. Executive Vice President of a company. Very independent. HB8.5-9. At the end of our 4th date I had her top off, legs around me and I picked her up, back against the wall and told her that we were having sex on the next date. Kissed her good night and left. Come time for the 5th date and she was all about having sex. She got the message that it was time to get down or I was out.
Good job. Would you say she was a "bad" or a "good" woman? Could anyone finangle you into a LTR at this stage of your life?
 

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Good job. Would you say she was a "bad" or a "good" woman? Could anyone finangle you into a LTR at this stage of your life?
She was definitely a good woman. Very little drama with her. Good relationship skills.

Ms. Awesome could get me convinced to have a LTR. I'm a top 20% guy, and I expect a top 20% girl. ;-) I've got a likely candidate I've been seeing for a few months now.
 
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