"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dating your best friends sister

johnm420

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alright ive been having a problem lately. ive been getting tons of mixed signals from my friends sister she being 16 me 17. For the past two weeks ive felt like shes been giving me signals hinting that she is interested in me. So for example

Im like im going to the movies on saturday with some friends wana come shes like shure ill call you. comes to saturady no call i call her she makes up same lame excuse. Saying she couldnt find my cell phone number and i said ask your brother she said i didnt want to bother him. So im like whatever. Then next week she calls me up and asks me if i want to go to the mall with her. I'm wondering whats going on here.

she ussaly seems like she is interested in me , but sometimes shes like the total oposite person. im not shure if shes trying to just blow me off or is trying to get me more interested

Also her mom is friends with my mom and she always says that im so good i looking and how great it would be if we went out.

But there is a thin margine of error here because if i ask her out i might mess up my friendship and im getting mixed signals like above.



so to summarize my problems
1) whats up with the mixed signals
2) how to get around the whole datting your friends sister
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Vincent

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Trust me, this is a bad idea.
 

Vincent

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Originally posted by johnm420
bros come before girls ;)
It's not even that, it's that it will be awkward between you and your friend and he'll be involved even if he doesn't want to be, and if something goes bad it will most likely hurt your friendship.

It's really just not worth it.
 

johnm420

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ya i understand it can cause more problems than it would be worth
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kidd

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Bro trust me, not worth it.

Because once you break up...
 

johnm420

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ya it wouldnt work out unless my friend was cool with it but id feel weird going up to my friend and be like soo can i date your sister

i dont think it would work :down:
 
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