oldmanofthesea
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When dating girls from your social circle (I'm talking about women you JUST met, who you were introduced to through your extended social circle), do you find that you need to employ different tactics than you would with a girl you met in OLD, cold approach, or clubs? The social dynamics seem to be different and the girl has a bit more to lose and consider.
I feel like there are two schools of thought:
I am very new to meeting women through my social circle so am curious to get the opinions and observations of those who meet a lot of women this way. I feel like #1 is the way to go for women in bars and cold approaches but I'm not so sure it's the best way to go in social circles. I wonder if women who are a bit more cautious will respond poorly to this and feel you are coming on too strong or are desperate which may be a red flag for them? And for #2, I feel the risk there is that they don't get the assertiveness they need to feel attracted to you; there is also the risk that as you are honing your game, you make your escalation move at the wrong time.
I feel like there are two schools of thought:
- Always be direct, forward, and assertive in your approach with women regardless of where/how you meet them. Women appreciate this dominance/directness and it arouses the emotions they need to feel attracted and interested in you romantically as opposed to just lumping you in the platonic friend category.
- Be mysterious. Flirt with them, touch them, but don't make your intentions clear immediately. Surf the line between romantic and platonic. Do this in group settings with them over the course of several group outings/events as you build tension, rapport, comfort, and mystery until you sense the time is right to make your move and escalate by pulling them away from the group to kiss them or ask them out on a one-on-one date.
I am very new to meeting women through my social circle so am curious to get the opinions and observations of those who meet a lot of women this way. I feel like #1 is the way to go for women in bars and cold approaches but I'm not so sure it's the best way to go in social circles. I wonder if women who are a bit more cautious will respond poorly to this and feel you are coming on too strong or are desperate which may be a red flag for them? And for #2, I feel the risk there is that they don't get the assertiveness they need to feel attracted to you; there is also the risk that as you are honing your game, you make your escalation move at the wrong time.