Dating to relationship

[Aesthetix29]

Ok so too cut a long story short... I started messaging a girl off pof only to find out we have lots of mutual friends etc... So the following week I was out drinking with a mate and I mention too him that I've been messaging her and he says its a girl he's been banging best friend so he messages the girl he's been seeing to see if she was out and low and behold she was with the girl I've been texting so they come and meet us... We stay out drinking for a few hours then came back to mine... My mate and his girl left a few hours later and I ended up sleeping with the girl I've been messaging (she's a HB8/9) day after we stay in bed watching films till 4pm spooning etc... Fast forward a few days and were now texting each other... I also took her out on a date on Sunday date went really well... Meal, cinema so when I dropped her off she asked me in.. To which I obliged, we chilled on the sofa watching a movie kissing, cuddling spooning etc... Lots of interest... When she checked the time it was 1.10am in the morning and it was a work day.. So she said she better go bed and you need to go home so I was like okay.. When I got home 25 mins later she texted me thanking me for such a good night and that we should do it again soon ... So ive set up another date for this weekend... Now my question is I like this girl seems like gf material.. How do I escalate from dating to a relationship? I'm not looking to do right away maybe a few more dates... But surely you don't ask them that beta! I should also mention there's lots of kino holding hands and rubbing hands etc.. I think I've covered everything. Thanks guys

 

[RangerMIke]

... Now my question is I like this girl seems like gf material.. How do I escalate from dating to a relationship?

DO NOT THINK OF HER AS GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL! This will totally mess up your vibe, because if you start thinking of her as girlfriend material then you are going to start acting like a boy friend and it will totally ruin your chances.

You should only be pursuing her for fun and sex... keep your center, be confident, in self-control, and do not be too accomodating or available... after awhile, usually a couple of months, and she WANTS you, then she'll bring up exclusivity.

So the answer to your question is there is really nothing you can do to push this to a relationship. If you try, you will turn her off. Lots of men screw this up. Women will RUN from a guy that is looking to lock them down in a relationship.

Go out with her on fun dates, have fun, fvck her, and if she wants a relationship she will let you know, otherwise just have fun and DO NOT get emotionally attached.

 

[El Payaso]

Just keep being a fun guy. Don't push for anything. Let her be the one to push for it and even then don't give in right away.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Ugh... I'm putting together a program about how to make a girl your girlfriend by month 3, but it won't be out til next month or so... for now though, here are some brief notes:

1. Only try to set up a date with her once a week - girls need time to miss you, so if you see them too much in the beginning it can be overkill. Also, try to limit those first few outings to no longer than 2 to 4 hours max - any more than that and you risk saying/doing something that will turn her off. Give her the gift of missing you so she can use the time she's not seeing you to think about how GREAT you make her feel, which only helps her to increase her interest in you.

2. Remember to do your due diligence - you THINK she's long term material, but be realistic: you've only been out with her 2 or 3 times, which is NOT enough time to determine that. So, keep your interest in check, and wait for at least 3 months before even thinking about making her the official girlfriend

3. Don't come on too verbally strong with your feelings. In fact, your best bet is to show her through ACTIONS that you care, but not via words. Words are HER territory, and you coming on too heavy is going to be too direct for her to handle.

4. You don't have the convo about being the bf/gf until she comes to YOU with the words "So, what are we?" or "Where do you see this thing going?" Which will usually happen on its own, if you're patient, around month 3. Until then, as long as she's saying "yes" to your date invites and not flaking, read that as "She likes you" and don't force the relationship issue. If she's spending time with you - which is what a relationship is - you're already getting what you want. Let HER come to you asking about titles.

5. Above all else, be fun. There shouldn't be any majorly heavy subjects coming up in those first 3 months, so just enjoy it.

That's a short list - hope this helps, and good luck!

 

[Aesthetix29]

Thanks for the advice guys... I've set another date up for Saturday night and she agreed and we were talking about doing something on Sunday aswell.. She's just texted me this.... What should I reply?

I bet it is the view is brilliant up there aswell isn't it we went on bonfire night, ok ye that's if I still like you by Sunday hahaha I'm only kidding that gone girl was well good so far can't wait to get in bed to watch the rest!! How's your Wednesday evening x

Thanks

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude you don't even know this girl, she screwed you the first night how do you figure she is GF material? If anything she just lost points with you. If she bangs you after a couple texts, she'll bang another dude just the same. Don't be an idiot, opening your legs is not a sign of high quality.

Keep hitting it dude and when she has been making you super happy for a couple months and asking to make things official on her super best behavior then maybe consider her. YOU are the prize not her ratchet azz, banging strangers from bars. Make her understand this.