Dating Subordinates

[Jordache.DJ]

I haven't seen anything written about dating subordinates. We all know women crave power and I have often found female subordinates giving off signals. But who are we to create awkward situations when things go awry? The few times I have followed up on these leads I have felt self-conscious about it.

I'm in my senior year of undergraduate studies and have done a lot of club leadership - as president of an academic club, film festival director, talk show host, etc... so these situations have come up a few times if only because I meet a lot of people doing these things.

One busy day, I asked a new recruit (HB9) to meet me in my office to discuss her involvement. I then walked her down to the food court because I was hungry and had no time for lunch. By the end of our meeting we had discussed some interim goals and I had arranged to follow up next week. I had been efficient about the whole thing and noticed at the end of it that she was TREMBLING.

Clearly I have power over this girl and am considering a salsa date but I am wondering whether it is fair to even offer or if there is something of substance to my self-consciousness here.

I imagine the implications of subordinate dating would be more serious in an actual work environment than in student clubs (if you respond they could nail you for harassment).

What do you think?

 

[diablo]

In college, it's fine. In your career job, it's suicide. In fact, some say that attempting to seduce a women in your employ is nothing more than a serpentine effort to transform a lady into a whor*.

 

[alphawolfx]

isn't that from greene's the art of seduction?

 

[The Rake]

Dating a subordinate in the workplace is an invitation to a charge of sexual harassment down the road. Do you value your career and do you have aspirations to climb the corporate ladder? If YES on both counts, stay away from the 9 to 5 chickadees. They see you as the ticket to a better job, increased corporate status and perhaps a sugar daddy to take care of them financially for life.

Don't dip your pen in the company's inkwell.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by alphawolfx
isn't that from greene's the art of seduction?

Nah, it's actually from the movie Kate & Leopold.