Dating someone you're not all that interested in

[Huno]

I've never had any luck or success with women in the past, though my skills have improved a lot since reading sites like this and getting feedback from friends about what I do. And since I've worked on my appearance (losing weight, getting nicer clothes), I'm getting a lot more attention from women now. But, until recently, no dates.

I was recently introduced to a girl her friends had set me up with; she seems like a nice enough girl, and she's fairly attractive (7). We've been out twice, made out last time we went; she told me she liked me a lot and she wants to see me again. Things seem to be going great.

My problem is that, while she's cool and all, I'm not totally interested in her; at least, not in the way I was interested in others. I don't think about her much, nor do I really care to call her all that often (which is driving her nuts, according to her friends). I have fun when I'm with her, but that's about it. And, to top it all off, I'm suffering from a case of one-itis with another girl whom I've been friends with for two years, but won't take it any further.

Since I have so little experience around girls, I thought I'd date this girl just to make sure I've got some knowledge under my belt, but I feel like I'm not really getting what I want. I might grow to like her more in the future (that's happened to me in the past, where I won't like someone at first, I break it off, then I start wanting them again... wussy, I know...).

Anyway, should I keep seeing this girl? What does everyone think? Opinions, comments, verbal ass-kickings welcome.

 

[bullmoose]

I don't think about her much, nor do I really care to call her all that often (which is driving her nuts, according to her friends)

Congratulations. You've taken your first step into a larger universe.

When you can do this with an HB 9 -- or better yet, with several of them at a time -- you'll be a master.

 

[darthsidious]

it happens, date her and others at the same time...

thats what i do and if nothing happens with the other chick i just keep the current one...

always be paranoid...

 

[Huno]

Originally posted by bullmoose
I don't think about her much, nor do I really care to call her all that often (which is driving her nuts, according to her friends)

Congratulations. You've taken your first step into a larger universe.

When you can do this with an HB 9 -- or better yet, with several of them at a time -- you'll be a master.

Yeah, if only it were that easy.... I can see how my calm is really getting to her, it's natural since I'm just not that interested...

Anyone else have any input? I think darthsidious' advice makes sense, but I'd like to see what others think.

 

[arutha]

I did that once, agreed to go out with a girl I didn't really like. Its not a good thing to do IMO, because you are just leading her on and she could start liking you quite a lot only to have you turn around and tell her you never liked her anyway.

Ok so if its experience you want, then go out with her a couple of times, but don't get too close or physical, its just cruel IMO.

 

[zerocelcius]

don't do it

if you go out with her anything you learn you are going to attach those sh*ty feelings you have with them. So if you do it to learn or get experience than use it to get experience in walking away. The best lesson to learn here is go for what YOU REALLY Want and to have the CHO CHO's to do it.

It would be like reading a dumb boring book for the lessons in it...come on we all know we don't read our text books covor to covor...ok maybey in economics but that was cause we had to...

anyway my point here is the best and biggest leasson you can learn here is to not settle for what you don't want and to go out there and get what you do want.

PCZ

 

[zerocelcius]

P.S.

like said above....

If you can get this additude you have toward her down, and act like this when you are around a girl you are intrested in than you have got one mad skill. ... just wanted to restate that important lil sum sum...

pcz

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Go after the girl who you want and quit being scared!!! Men should not be scared of women -- especially if you knew her for 2 years!!! Quit being friends with girls - this is not natural or proper!!!!!