Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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penkitten

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oh wait, i totally got sidetracked off the real thread issue, because it really isn't about his silly 80 thousand dollar audi... its about his bitterness.
you can look at the messages and in a nutshell already tell that he has extreme bitterness issues already.
he has been on that site for 3 weeks emailing his little heart out to every chick he thinks he can have, and when no one responded, he got pissed and started taking it out on you and/or other chicks too. perhaps he sent them all the same message he sent to you.
it did make you respond, which is what he wanted, a response, some attention in his direction.
too bad that it did not get him the real kind of response he was hoping for.
perhaps it isn't fair that one person will email the crap out of 100 people and no one respond and each of those 100 people get 100 emails from other people they are not interested in.
well, that is too bad, and that is nobody's fault. welcome to the world of internet dating sites, huh?
it just goes to show, that you can not count on the internet to be the sure place to meet someone. yes, some people have done it, but it usually just doesn't happen exactly like that.
you did nothing wrong, sunnyd. in fact, you didn't even have to feel obligated to write back to him when you saw the first email.
perhaps you could make a 2nd profile, with altered information, and when someone writes you one of these sort of messages... log on to the 2nd profile and email them a link to this site.

all we can do is promote positive things to the people that need a lift.
personal growth, maturity and happiness is not something that all people strive for, sometimes they need a reality check. so, send them here, where they might get some help.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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penkitten said:
wtf was he thinking buying an audi?

LOL. I actually like VW as an affordable ride but when (rarely) something goes wrong it is usually gonna cost in spades. Silly Germans. I can't get into Audi because the Audi Fox scarred me for life as a young man but that's a story for another day.

I used to think M-B made the best cars on earth but Bentley is making me reconsider.
 
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