Originally posted by WorldCitizen, and am reposting as I believe this is possibly the best guide on this site for dealing shy/inexperienced girls. Dunno why this isn't DJ Bible worthy as I think it is.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=53873&highlight=shy*
Okay, I did a thorough search for innocent/inexperienced girls using the don juan search engine, but no luck. Here's some background info...
I have game, plenty of game with regular girls Heck, even with shy girls, i have no problems approaching, small talking and number closing. I don't let women get the best of me, and I have a high self-esteem
However, I have found the following problem:
Despite having had as much sex as I can handle and many relationships, etc., I have come to the point where I want something different. The fact is that I'm far more attracted to humility and groundedness than horniness in a girl. The fact that they're physically attractive is a must, naturally.
Yet, when I try to spit the ****y-funny vibe, and moving fast for the dates, etc., I find I keep scaring away the shy inexperienced girls. I've had some luck recently by not being ****y, understating my outgoingness and playing it humble just to get them comfortable (I am decent, but I'm not naturally humble hehe). The Don Juan traits are great for getting you confident/motivated and able to number close any girl, and a relationship with most girls, however, to get into a "relationship" with a shy/inexperienced girl seems to require new strategies.
IF ANY OF YOU GUYS HAVE HAD SUCCESS WITH SUCH STRATEGIES, THIS IS THE THREAD TO POST THEM...
...be kind and share some of your wisdom I meet beautiful grounded spiritual and intelligent virgins on a regular basis, yet totally scare them off after a few weeks hehe...
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[Updated Shy-Inexperienced (SI) girls strategy by World Citizen]:
Okay guys,
I've seen great input here, and I think we can build up a solid strategy together if we compare strategies and field-tested ideas!
And I mean FIELD-TESTED!!!!
I'll get the ball rolling, here's my strategy for shy-inexperienced girls (there are plenty of outgoing inexperienced and shy experienced girls out there, this is not for them):
1) Be your natural ****y/funny/confident self, and number/email close them like any other girl (a lot of shy girls seem to prefer msn/email to phone at the beginning due to strict parents or their own lack of experience with guys)
2) Take things slow
3) Patience seems to be key!...rush them into the same speed as a normal girl and they'll get scared
4) You must already have DJ traits to pull all of this off smoothly, so if you haven't already done so, read the DJ Bible and get plenty of field experience.
5) Use humour a lot to get her comfortable, a lot of them are suckers for humour
6) Talk to them for a while, and hint at your interest a couple of times, and if they just don't get it, suggest that they're your type, and you'd be interested in them but need to get to know them better (and when you hang out, always give her the "look" that lets her know non-verbally your desire/interest)
7) Hang out with them in groups first, when they're comfortable with that then move on to one on one...this may take a month from the first time you meet them to the point where you're going on "one on one dates" (totally against my principles with any other woman, but these women are wifey material so it's worth it
8) At some point where you were very obviously interested in her she'll get scared (of falling for you? ) and may appear quiet-uninterested, but still hang around you from time to time...dont' let this confuse you (she still wants you, she just doesnt' know it yet )...continue things a little slower now, when she makes a move to talk to you continue the jokes...and be warm and down to earth.
9) By now you're hanging out one on one, take it real slow, be friends first, after a few dates when you see her really comfortable, establish kino, go in for the kiss, if she's receptive then it's all smoothe DJ sailing weather after that ...
10) If all the points above need re-working (and I'm sure they do) please please add your input!!!!...and give me more points to add, we need to beat out a more comprehensive strategy for these unique women
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=53873&highlight=shy*
Okay, I did a thorough search for innocent/inexperienced girls using the don juan search engine, but no luck. Here's some background info...
I have game, plenty of game with regular girls Heck, even with shy girls, i have no problems approaching, small talking and number closing. I don't let women get the best of me, and I have a high self-esteem
However, I have found the following problem:
Despite having had as much sex as I can handle and many relationships, etc., I have come to the point where I want something different. The fact is that I'm far more attracted to humility and groundedness than horniness in a girl. The fact that they're physically attractive is a must, naturally.
Yet, when I try to spit the ****y-funny vibe, and moving fast for the dates, etc., I find I keep scaring away the shy inexperienced girls. I've had some luck recently by not being ****y, understating my outgoingness and playing it humble just to get them comfortable (I am decent, but I'm not naturally humble hehe). The Don Juan traits are great for getting you confident/motivated and able to number close any girl, and a relationship with most girls, however, to get into a "relationship" with a shy/inexperienced girl seems to require new strategies.
IF ANY OF YOU GUYS HAVE HAD SUCCESS WITH SUCH STRATEGIES, THIS IS THE THREAD TO POST THEM...
...be kind and share some of your wisdom I meet beautiful grounded spiritual and intelligent virgins on a regular basis, yet totally scare them off after a few weeks hehe...
==============================================
[Updated Shy-Inexperienced (SI) girls strategy by World Citizen]:
Okay guys,
I've seen great input here, and I think we can build up a solid strategy together if we compare strategies and field-tested ideas!
And I mean FIELD-TESTED!!!!
I'll get the ball rolling, here's my strategy for shy-inexperienced girls (there are plenty of outgoing inexperienced and shy experienced girls out there, this is not for them):
1) Be your natural ****y/funny/confident self, and number/email close them like any other girl (a lot of shy girls seem to prefer msn/email to phone at the beginning due to strict parents or their own lack of experience with guys)
2) Take things slow
3) Patience seems to be key!...rush them into the same speed as a normal girl and they'll get scared
4) You must already have DJ traits to pull all of this off smoothly, so if you haven't already done so, read the DJ Bible and get plenty of field experience.
5) Use humour a lot to get her comfortable, a lot of them are suckers for humour
6) Talk to them for a while, and hint at your interest a couple of times, and if they just don't get it, suggest that they're your type, and you'd be interested in them but need to get to know them better (and when you hang out, always give her the "look" that lets her know non-verbally your desire/interest)
7) Hang out with them in groups first, when they're comfortable with that then move on to one on one...this may take a month from the first time you meet them to the point where you're going on "one on one dates" (totally against my principles with any other woman, but these women are wifey material so it's worth it
8) At some point where you were very obviously interested in her she'll get scared (of falling for you? ) and may appear quiet-uninterested, but still hang around you from time to time...dont' let this confuse you (she still wants you, she just doesnt' know it yet )...continue things a little slower now, when she makes a move to talk to you continue the jokes...and be warm and down to earth.
9) By now you're hanging out one on one, take it real slow, be friends first, after a few dates when you see her really comfortable, establish kino, go in for the kiss, if she's receptive then it's all smoothe DJ sailing weather after that ...
10) If all the points above need re-working (and I'm sure they do) please please add your input!!!!...and give me more points to add, we need to beat out a more comprehensive strategy for these unique women
