"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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okay, i tried searching, but either nothing comes up, or i get alot of conflicting answers, so i figured id say that first....

1) what are the rules for talking on the phone? how often? what about? and for non-exclusive, and exclusive, neither living together?
i asked a friend of mine who lives with her bf, and she only calls him to make him do errands and stuff, and that they talk in person, but thats a totally different situation.

2) we'll have known each other 2 months, would it be okay to ask her to go to spring break with me, or would that be too weird? is there a rule of thumb for when to go vacationing?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by pimp in training
1) what are the rules for talking on the phone? how often? what about? and for non-exclusive, and exclusive, neither living together?
2) we'll have known each other 2 months, would it be okay to ask her to go to spring break with me, or would that be too weird? is there a rule of thumb for when to go vacationing?
Why do you want to talk to her on the phone? Answer: To set up face to face meetings. That goes for any type of relationship. Substituting phone time or internet time for face to face time huge mistake. If you think about it, the same logic applies to long distance relationships as well.

I have taken girls that I met only days before on vacations. It all depends on both of your comfort levels and personalities.
 

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1) Of course you get a lot of conflicting answers - however, you're going to get them in the thread as well. The best bet is to take whatever you think will work best, try it, and if it doesn't work change tactics. There is no univeral "right" answer.

Go back, re-search. There are 251 threads with "phone" in the title... many of these deal with the exact same question you're asking.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...by=lastpost&sortorder=descending&pagenumber=2

2) Ask yourself why you want to take this girl with you on Spring Break. Maybe it's just me, but in my experience Spring Break is a time when you can go to the beach, get drunk, meet a ton of girls you wouldn't have otherwise, make out with most of them, sleep with one or two of them, go to sleep, and do all over again the next day??? Beats the hell out of being with the same chick you've been around for the last 2 months... at least in my book.
 

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my dad said why do i wanna take a ham sandwich to a buffet


Originally posted by diablo
1) Of course you get a lot of conflicting answers - however, you're going to get them in the thread as well. The best bet is to take whatever you think will work best, try it, and if it doesn't work change tactics. There is no univeral "right" answer.

Go back, re-search. There are 251 threads with "phone" in the title... many of these deal with the exact same question you're asking.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search...by=lastpost&sortorder=descending&pagenumber=2

2) Ask yourself why you want to take this girl with you on Spring Break. Maybe it's just me, but in my experience Spring Break is a time when you can go to the beach, get drunk, meet a ton of girls you wouldn't have otherwise, make out with most of them, sleep with one or two of them, go to sleep, and do all over again the next day??? Beats the hell out of being with the same chick you've been around for the last 2 months... at least in my book.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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more dumb questions:

why is substituting face to face talking for phone talking bad?

arent you originally from b-mo diablo?
 
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