Originally posted by WestCoaster
On future dates with women: There's usually no set rule on number of dates and frequency, it kind of takes its own course. However, if you have a great time on your first date, say, "I'll call you soon" rather than, "Can I see you again." I've learned through experience that if you act like you'll be going out again instead of hoping, you'll go out again. Don't wait too long to call, but also don't call immediately.
My experience is after a really good date, you're usually dating once a week for a little while, then it picks up if you become an item.
Also, one thing it took a long time for me to learn was each dating scenario and relationship goes at their own pace. Some take off real quickly emotionally and physically; some take off quicker emotionally and are slow physically, and vice versa. I used to think there was a set time/pattern for these things to happen. Not true. Each woman is different, thus each relationship is different. Let it flow, but still make sure it's going at the pace you want, too.
On LJBF, I'm the master as of late this has been popular for me (also very frustrating). Most of the time these women do not want to be friends, they're letting you down easy. Women don't make the best of friends all the time either, they don't call much or want to hang out. It's a tired, old cliche to let you down easy. Just move on and if you want to contact this "friend" at a later date, make sure it is a LATER date.
Those are my opinions, which may contrast from others here. Take a little knowledge from all of us and find out what works best for you. To steal a line from a movie that I just read about, "Desparation is the worst cologne."
Even if you're AFCing, desparate, hungary for love ... don't show it. Do you're AFCing, moaning, and yelling at home alone. Don't let them see you sweat, panic, or be bummed.
Great stuff. Each woman is different. The sexual attraction/chemistry between myself and a former lover was soooo powerful, that I basically took her away from her ex, who was trying desperatley to get back with her, and at a club, literally coockblocked some dope who was hitting on her, and started to make out with her, in front of him (I love to do that!) We went on a first (lunch) date, where the physical chemistry was off the charts, and 5 days later (After the club incident) went on a "dinner and movie" type thing, and after the movie, stayed in bed the rest of the weekend, and dated long term after that. Another woman I recently dated just wanted to be "FB's" so we did that for a month, she landed up with the guy there before me, but still occasionally contacts me. There is good physical chemistry there. And she wont tell me "LJBF" or that she is seeing someone else, thats probably because she wants the "FB" thing left intact, which is OK by me.
There is a woman I have had my eye on for some time now. The other night at a club, she was drunk, and we introduced ourselves to each other, I sang "Careless Whispers" directly to her, then afterwards she wanted a cigarette and a drink, which I was happy to oblige her with, and then proceeded to forget her damned name, at which point she called me an a$$hole, and I was "in"....minutes later, we were showing each other the finer points of French kissing, in front of everybody. Had I been a nice guy, I'd have gotten a handshake, but as an a$$hole, she was trying to reach my tonsils. She left with her friends, but she knows where I work, and if it wasnt just the booze, and I do believe there was some real chemistry there, she'll be back. I'm not real worried about it, and I landed up looking like a real playa in front of my peers.
And yet another woman, this one into piercings and tatts, and the punk rock look, was also interested in tasting my mouth, and wanted to show me her filed teeth (she is into the whole "vampire" look, which I found interesting)...she basically was fuuking me while I was sitting on a barstool, and literally bit my lower lip till it bled, and bit my pecs and my throat, all the while telling me how badly she wanted me......all the while, I acted indifferent.
Of LJBF I say this. They are barely worth my time, and they pay for their own drinks, and their own food, and they dont get to ride with me.
