Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I can dig your opinion, backbreaker, and it is a good point. I would like to add that I do not like wide noses or nappy hair. That is what is prevalent of the black race, and it does not make me nor backbreaker a "racist." It is all about what you like, it is PREFERENCE. Keep in mind, that with a black girl, this is what comes in her genes.Actually, there are some features about white women that do turn me off.. Long slinder noses I don't like... I don't like long faces, and I am not crazy about blondes either.
That sounds about right. Tell me, backbreaker, why isn't someone, like Jesse Jackson or Al Sharpton, not screaming about the "racism" in the NFL and NBA? Where is the "DIVERSITY?" I don't think that my race is accurately repesented in these sports. You can BET that if the situation were reversed, they would be there, playing the race card.That's why 83% of the NFL and 80% of the NBA are African American... not to mention the 3-5 or so players that are actually from Africa in the NBA (Loul Deng, Disanga Diop, Mutombo, etc)
MetalFortress, good work. You are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. What do you have to say about that, Backbreaker? You claimed NUMEROUS times that whites cause more crime againt blacks than blacks do against whites. I think an APOLOGY is in order.Backbreaker: http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0884102.html
According to your link, the ratio of anti-black to anti-white hate crimes is 1:3. According to my link, the ratio of black people to white people is 1:6.5. Sure seems like there are more black racists to me. Beyond that, not every racist commits a hate crime. But black society as a whole is more racist than white society.
you are one sad sad little man.....Originally posted by K B
NO, your mom is NOT a racist. She is trying to look after you, like all good mothers do. She knows, just like I do, that in the end, you will have much more in common with a person of your own race. You will be able to LIVE and associate much better with someone that is your own race.
I am white, and I am PROUD of my European heritage. I want my kids to be PROUD of who they are. If you have a mixed child, where are they going to find their pride? They WILL choose a side, and it might not be yours. Your mom probably knows that it is hard enough being married; imagine having to deal with the parents of another race who probably will NOT ACCEPT you, maybe not even your kids, all because they are different. THEY WILL BE DIFFERENT, and I don't mean that in a good way. Say what you will, but mixed children do not have an easy childhood. They usually have no idea where they fit in, and we all know how cruel other kids can be.
I can dig your opinion, backbreaker, and it is a good point. I would like to add that I do not like wide noses or nappy hair. That is what is prevalent of the black race, and it does not make me nor backbreaker a "racist." It is all about what you like, it is PREFERENCE. Keep in mind, that with a black girl, this is what comes in her genes.
If a black and white marry, your children will *NEVER* posses some of your features, like your hair structure, your colored eyes, your long, slender nose, your thinner lips, or your white skin. The point is, blacks and whites are NOT THE SAME! We never will be, so everyone needs to stop pretending that we are.
If you can get past all of the differences between the races, and you still want to go for a black girl, then get it. That is up to you, but I would suggest you think long and hard before you think that there isn't going to be some problems, starting with your kid's grandmother.
That's why 83% of the NFL and 80% of the NBA are African American... not to mention the 3-5 or so players that are actually from Africa in the NBA (Loul Deng, Disanga Diop, Mutombo, etc)
That sounds about right. Tell me, backbreaker, why isn't someone, like Jesse Jackson or Al Sharpton, not screaming about the "racism" in the NFL and NBA? Where is the "DIVERSITY?" I don't think that my race is accurately repesented in these sports. You can BET that if the situation were reversed, they would be there, playing the race card.
Backbreaker: http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0884102.html
According to your link, the ratio of anti-black to anti-white hate crimes is 1:3. According to my link, the ratio of black people to white people is 1:6.5. Sure seems like there are more black racists to me. Beyond that, not every racist commits a hate crime. But black society as a whole is more racist than white society.
MetalFortress, good work. You are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. What do you have to say about that, Backbreaker? I think that you owe all of us in here a formal APOLOGY.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Maybe clonation might be more your thing.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Screw interracial reproduction!
I want my kids to look like me! EXACTLY freakin' like me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WHoa, back up a minute...what are you saying? Can you explain that?Originally posted by Serialized3
(However, American blacks do tend to be physically stronger due to forced mating during chattle slavery)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
OK Serialized3, where did YOU get THOSE facts? It seems like YOU pulled them out of your @ss. Sounds like racism to me.Whoever said that "asians are more intelligent than whites who are more intelligent than blacks but blacks are stronger"...yeah, where did you get those facts? It seems like you pulled them out of your ass. What is the definition of intelligence anyways? Artistic ability? Reasoning? Ability to pick up languauges? I'll bet you didnt know there have been correlations (not necessarily proof because the brain is still far too complex for modern science to fully understand) between intelligence and amino acid concentrations during the later parts of pregnancy.
(However, American blacks do tend to be physically stronger due to forced mating during chattle slavery)
Agreed. I am white and PROUD.If you only have one hriage, be proud of it! If you have more than one heritage, be proud of all of them! Be proud of who you are and respect where you came from, we've all been million of years in the making.
How do you figure sexualchocolate? Which politicians did that? That is just RIDICULOUS. If you really believe that, you are ignorant. I think YOU are the one who is being racist.Just give us a lil time. i mean hell, the politicians did flood our streets with crack during civil rights time bc whites feared equality. i guess their plan worked to stall our succession. worked a lil too well.
Sexualchocalte, if you would spend your time doing something CONSTRUCTIVE intstead of living in the past and blaming the "big bad white man" for something that happened 30 years ago, when you weren't EVEN BORN YET, you might surprise yourself.if u wanna blame someone about blacks status, blame those who fought to keep us as dogs that they could treat like sh*t anytime they felt like (30 years ago). It wasnt illegal then. it was more of a sport.
I already went through this in another thread. Blacks LOVE this one. They seem to think that when a white woman "clutches her purse," she is doing it because you are black. White women AND black women clutch their purses around me, but I am SMART enough to know why without pulling out the tired race card. Women are the weaker sex, and when a person of the stronger sex (that means you and me) who also happens to be a STRANGER to them is around, they don't know ANYTHING about us, so it is only LOGICAL to keep your purse, which contains money and VALUABLES in it, close by "clutching it." It has nothing to do with race. And, for the record, black women do the same thing around me. So stop your whining.And white women, quit clutchin ur purse around me. Nobody snatches purses in north carolina. Ur getting robbed everyday legally by white america.
Why would you rather a black dude rob you? Are you racist against white robbers?i would much rather some black dude rob me in person. im broke, his arse would just be practicing.
Another racist comment. You said something completely different earlier that harks back to the slave days, so I guess "we" started out with "ur's" first...your quote, sexualchocolate:Honestly in my younger days i would get disturbed by a white guy and black girl. But that was because yall took our hottest ones. But i would never say anything rude. Hell if ur the better man, then u get the prize. Im just sayin at least we started out with ur fat uglys first
Once again, a RACIST comment. That makes THREE.and dont forget how slave owners would rape their female slaves. find it funny how a person can be a racist until it comes to his pecker. guess it was better than the sheep cooch they had in the past.
I already covered this, and let me again refer to the statistics that backbreaker supplied us with and MetalFortress analyzed for us earlier in this thread.seriously white women quit clutchin ur purse around me its irritating.
I feel the same way about this. But then again it's the same thing as being proud to be american (or whatever other country u're from). You don't really have anything to do with what happened before u were born. I'm german and I don't feel like I personally should be ashamed of being german or anything (but I'm not proud of being german either..I'm just me).Why would someone be so proud of their race? It's not exactly something you've worked your ass off for... it's totally beyond your control... how can you take credit for that?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.