Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dating outside of one's own race...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Iamnotacrook
Senior Don Juan
I've dated white girls before, I've never really had any major problems with that.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ApocalypseCow2
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Well, 50 is cutting it pretty damn close to the cutoff point for her ignorance to be a "genrational thing." She saw what was going on during the 1960's...she should know better. If she doesn't, well, I'm sorry, but the original poster really has a backwards woman for a mother. I'm glad that he has different beliefs.
Joe The Homophobe
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Ill have as many girlfriends as I want whether they be white/asian/latinas whatever. But the day I decide to marry ill pick a woman that looks like me so my kids look like me. I look like my dad and I would love my son to look like me as well. I must be a klan member for thinking this right?? You people make a big deal out of anything!
diplomatic_lies
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You have the right to marry within your race if you want.
However, you do not have right to tell other people who to marry. Your earlier post:
Everyone has the right to date and marry who they like, regardless of what the KKK thinks.
penkitten
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it is not up to another human to determine your mortality. that is between you and whomever you believe your maker to be.
if you want to marry a blue eyed red headed 18 yr old = fine
if you want to marry a gray headed 81 yr with bifocals = fine
if you want to marry a blonde headed man = whatever
i personally dont see anything wrong with interracial marriages and i personally believe that the more interracial marriages with offspring will one day make illnesses like sickle cell diease obsolete because it slowly takes those genes that cause things like that out of the gene pool, which in turn makes for healthier decendants.
in this day in age, our society shouldnt be so brainwashed by interracial couples. i mean come on, this is not the fifties.
its not like the first time any of us have heard of this.
the kkk is a american terrorists organization. go look up some fbi information about american terrorist, you will see them on the list. they are no better than the organizations that bomb abortion clinics . that is just a different american terrorist organization. so is jeffery domers organization.
http://cfrterrorism.org/groups/american.html
http://cfrterrorism.org/groups/american2.html
But i do have a problem with certain ethnic groups pulling the race card and then dating a female of the race they make accusations against. Can you say hypocrite/racist?
Everyone acts like white women are some sort of prize. Why is this?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Well, you can't blame on your mom. I bet people of any RACE in america (over the age of 45) would be against race mixing. Its the way it is. Every race has its own stereotypes, but black (and hispanic) people have the worst repof all. But i do see bm/wf couples time to time but I can tell you this on first hand since i am living in a most diverse part of the world - Southern California. I remember my grandfather straight up told my sisters not to date blacks or mexicans. He was basically against everyone. But funny thing is that he was never against them date or marry asians because he thought their skin was light enough to pass them off as white.
Not Quite There
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yeah, probably a lto of truth in that, also the weak would normally die on the slave ships.
Its the same with australia, they are generally sporty and atheltic, and pretty big guys, because the strongest survived on the prison ships over there.
Backbreaker, again you talk a lot of sense in this debate.
DJ_in_making
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I want my kids to look like me! EXACTLY freakin' like me. I don't f*ck w/ anyone outside of my family, let alone race! A distant cousin @ most! Period.
That's just my beliefs people, you'll have yours, and I'll have mine.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think you made your point; albeit a bit disturbing.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I love white women, i'm just asking why every race bends over backwards to get their hands on a white female. Even racists, will go after white women.........it's crazy! Just look at all of the posts here at SS directed towards "i'm a minority, i want to date this white girl, but her parents don't like me." Or White girls don't like me because i'm ____________."
backbreaker
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"why I men like white girls soo much"
Well, I can't speak for anyone else, this is just me...
I see and get the whole "the white women are the prize" theory. It makes sense, white women are glorized on the TV, Magazines, of course you want to be with them.
I am telling you personalily that's not the case for me. First off, I date ATTRACTIVE, INTERESTING WOMEN. NOw if she happens to be white, so be it.
Any African American who looks at a white girl as a prize is silly and doesn't know his history.. Africans problbably have one of the most storied histories on the face of this planet... Everyone on this planet came from Western AFrica (etheopia).
With that said, I don't look at white women and say "*****, you are below me either".. I mean, we are all equal, but I am just saying, ,dating a girl because she is "white" is silly... Iknow guys who sleep with white women just because they are white, and they won't even be cute white.. just white...
White guys don't get mad when you date white girls... they get mad when you start taking the FINE white girls that can have any WHITE guy.. Something I learned from experience
And no I don't mean all white guys silly people who are getting ready to start a post saying that is generalzing all white guys, it 's a joke.
I had a girl that was white when I was a senior in high school show alot of interest in me.. we started dating, but when I woke up and reazlized what was going.. she wasn't dating ME, she was dating a BLACK KID, we broke up. She expected me to do certain things, suprised when I didn't do certain things, just making stupid generalzations. I saw her not to long ago and one of my friends that knows her told me she "only dates black guys" which is silly, judging someone that you don't know before you know them.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Beauty, for as long as the earth is round, for the most part, has been about ONE thing...
Geometry.
Symetry and Defination.
Anythnig ASymetrical or curvy is not considered as beautifl as something that is symetrical and has defination.
White, black, green, purple, red, doesn't matter.
Like.. who is that women I hate more than...OH, Jill Scott..
Now, if you haven't seen her... she is not easy on the eyes..
But all of her songs are about her being Beautiful, and her supporters will tellyou that you are brainwashed to believe that white slim women are the thing that's in...
No, Jill, you aren't condered to be good looking because you are... curvy ,meaning FAT.
I get more attention wh en I am 165-170 and 7-9% body fat then when I was 200-210 and upwards of 15% body fat.. Is something wrong with society because of that.. no, I got my fat ass in the gym and because of it, my face is more slinder, more symetrical and I look better.
Actually, there are some features about white women that do turn me off.. Long slinder noses I don't like... I don't like long faces, and I am not crazy about blondes either.
Some things about what the author said in that aritcle...
I am black, and Nappy Hair IS BAD Hair.. sure it was okay to have nappy hair when you live in Africa and have never heard of hair products besdies berries and water.. today there is no excuse for nappy hair. Luckly, I have pretty good hair, even when it's thick it's not nappy... There isn't a black person that I know that WANTS nappy hair.. there are some that don't take care of their hair therefore it's nappy.
I have seen many attractive black women (free on 106 and park) that have Afro's and have "textured" hair.. but that doesn't mean it's nappy...
Nappy means it Naps, which means it curls up in little balls. Nappy isn't think. Some girls think I am sexier when I DON'T cut my hair (it's not cut now, I am experimenting)
That girl in that picutre? that's not nappy hair... that's actually pretty good hair... lol, I have seen nappy hair, and no one wants kids to have nappy hair.
UMMM...Didnt read your post-sorry-but...You sound dumb-no offense-it doesnt matter man! If a woman find you attractive you will F8ck-No tricks...Also again no offense but fu*k what your family has to say-if she makes you feel good and you make her feel good then I dont see the problem-I'm a mixed man-half Native American and half Black-I've dated pretty much every race-yea there's been problems-but what do I care? Ultimately you live for you and not other people-no matter how much they mean to you-its AUTONMY man...
"Turn fear Into Curiosity"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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