Dating other girls while on an exclusive relationship... the moral dilema

[Starriol]

I've got a moral dillema. I made a post about this about a month ago.

I'm dating this girl for almost 3 months now. Yesterday I got 2 phone numbers with a very good perspective. And more are comming, I'm confident on that.

I wanna be a player right now in my life. I'm 22 and wanna get as much ***** as I can, at least till I get tired (if I do). But the problem is that I've stated to this girl that I'm gonna be exclusive to her.
So if I go out with any other girl (or girls 8) ), it's gonna be cheating on her.

So I see a couple of options:

- Keep my relationship with her and don't pursue any other chicks. TOTALLY DISCARDED!

- Keep my relationship with her and pursue other chicks and hide it from her. Seems quite a solid option, the way I see it, it's the best for all of the partys involved: for me, more chicks. She keeps getting her """exclusivity""" (notice the triple " signs). And all the other girls get a piece of ME (arrogant I??? NO WAY ).

- Try to keep my relationship with her after telling her I go out with more chicks. Probably, it's gonna end my relationship and it's gonna break her heart, she is madly in love with me, she tells me I'm the best she had so far and I know this will kill her.

- Break up with her. Again, I'm gonna break her heart if I do this.

I don't like having to cheat on her or the paranoia coming from needing to hide it from her, keeping my cell on me all the time spent with her because some chick may call, never giving my home phone number so the other chicks won't talk to mom (which I fear might tell something to my girlfriend), etc...

But I hate even more having to break her heart and ending the relationship or keeping it but disrispecting her by saying to her, in softer words "I'm licking other ***** than yours".
I hate even more renouncing to being a player...

I need help guys...
I wanna state that I care a lot for her, I wanna help her with her life, she needs support from someone right now since she's going trought a lot of changes and I can be that someone.

 

[Le Parisien]

- Keep my relationship with her and don't pursue any other chicks. TOTALLY DISCARDED!

- Keep my relationship with her and pursue other chicks and hide it from her. Seems quite a solid option, the way I see it, it's the best for all of the partys involved: for me, more chicks. She keeps getting her """exclusivity""" (notice the triple " signs). And all the other girls get a piece of ME (arrogant I??? NO WAY ).

- Try to keep my relationship with her after telling her I go out with more chicks. Probably, it's gonna end my relationship and it's gonna break her heart, she is madly in love with me, she tells me I'm the best she had so far and I know this will kill her.

- Break up with her. Again, I'm gonna break her heart if I do this.

So she won't be heart-broken when she finds out by herself?


Come on, stop trying to convince yourself that you are being the "good" person and you are doing this for her. You are simply being selfish. You want all the benefits of having a "stable" girlfriend but you also want all the benefits of being single...

But hey, many people do that. As long as you acknowledge it and you are honest with yourself.

My suggestion: be a good person and break up with her, that's the only "ethical" option I see.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by Le Parisien
So she won't be heart-broken when she finds out by herself?


Come on, stop trying to convince yourself that you are being the "good" person and you are doing this for her. You are simply being selfish. You want all the benefits of having a "stable" girlfriend but you also want all the benefits of being single...

But hey, many people do that. As long as you acknowledge it and you are honest with yourself.

My suggestion: be a good person and break up with her, that's the only "ethical" option I see.

Agreed!
I would never encourage cowardly acts. And the act of cheating and hiding things from her is a cowardly act.

Whatever you do Starriol, try to be a man and face the consequences of your decisions. The consequences may be difficult to experience but you've got to choose either way. So, you either choose to face them, however difficult it may be, or you choose to be a coward, running and hiding.

 

[MightyMate]

- Keep my relationship with her and pursue other chicks and hide it from her. Seems quite a solid option, the way I see it, it's the best for all of the partys involved: for me, more chicks. She keeps getting her """exclusivity""" (notice the triple " signs). And all the other girls get a piece of ME (arrogant I??? NO WAY ).


I also do that. But im far longer in LTR.

 

[Starriol]

And what's your experience with this, Mighty Mate? Is it doable? Do you like doing this?
Where you anytime close to getting caught?